What words or phrases do you need to say daily? Relationship expert reveals the 3 powerful words your relationship needs, and no – it’s not “I love you.”
See, saying “I love you” every day is undoubtably important. In fact, it’s saying “I love you” is one of the key healthy relationship habits you need to do daily.
But what else could you be missing? What else is important, and actually quite underrated?
3 Powerful Words Your Relationship Needs (Excl. “I Love You”)
Well, when you think about it – what do you want and need to hear from your partner? What do you probably not hear enough? And probably not say enough, either?
In most cases, it comes down to words of appreciation, words of gratitude, expression and respect.
See, leading relationship expert reveals, the 3 powerful words your relationship needs is:
“I value you.”
But hey, hold up, because the answer doesn’t stop there… (Oh no!)
Why Your Partner Needs To Know You Value Them
“I value you” is – in some ways – just as important as “I love you” in a relationship. After all, you can love a person, but love isn’t always enough…
When you value a person, you really hold them in the highest regard.
It makes your partner feel SEEN for who they truly are, and appreciated for all that they are (despite their “flaws.”)
It says – you’re good enough, you’re worthy.
It creates a far greatest sense of closeness and connection, not to mention, for your partner, a greater level sense of fulfilment and contentment.
In fact, Studies show feeling understood, appreciated and valued is a major factor in the quality of long-term relationships, so this also backs it up!
How To Express This More
So how do you go about saying those 3 powerful words your relationship needs? How can you say “I value you” in a way that feels natural and normal?
Well, get into the habit of better tying it in. For example…
- Instead of just saying “I love you”, extend it! Start saying, “I love you, I appreciate you and I really do value you, my love.” Make it flow more naturally and easily. It’s just a habit, after all. But it will mean the world – particularly if your partner’s love language is words of affirmation.
- Whenever you ask your partner’s opinion on something, don’t just ask, but add: “I’d really love to know what you think about this, as I value you and your opinion.” Express things a little clearer and slip those 3 powerful words in! Not only will it mean a lot, but they’re also then more likely to actively listen and think about their response, as they know it is truly being heard.
How To Express This In Different Ways
I value you can also be said and showed in different ways. For example:
- “What do you think about this?” This says – I value your opinion, like we touched on above.
- “How do you feel about this?” This says – I care about how you feel. You are important to me. And ultimately – I value you.
- “What would you do in my situation?” This says, again, I value your opinion, but also – I trust your judgement. You’re someone I really respect.
How To Show Someone You Value Them
Aside from saying the 3 powerful words your relationship needs and expressing “I value you”, you can also show someone you value them by doing the following things:
- Actively listen when they’re speaking to you. Forget scrolling through your phone or responding the bare minimum. Give them that time and attention – even if it’s when they’re simply telling you about their day.
- Make time for them. If you value a person, you’ll prioritise them enough to make time for them, no matter how busy life gets. Remember, we created a helpful guide for how to find time for quality time in a relationship – this should also make it a little easier.
- Complement them. Acknowledge the things they do and who they are. Notice the big things and the small and explain why you value and appreciate that in them. Also be willing to do this in front of others. Be their biggest cheerleader and fan!
- Express gratitude. Acknowledge the things they specifically do for you. Show them you recognise it and appreciate it, and appreciate them as a whole.
- Ask them more questions. Take an interest in them. Keep getting to know your partner. Show them they matter. And hey, if you think you already know it all – try our ultimate how well do you know me quiz, as I think you’ll be surprised!
- Be willing to give constructive criticism. It’s worth noting that showing you value someone doesn’t always mean lifting them up. If you value someone, you also won’t let them make mistakes or do things that aren’t like them. Respect and value also comes from being able to have honest, open conversations and speak up when you need to.
That’s All For This One
I hope you’ve found this valuable and it’s been an all-important reminder that really helps.
Remember these 3 powerful words your relationship needs… Remember to say it, to show it and express it in different ways, daily, as it really does go a long way.
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Wishing you all the very best!
Love,
Ell_xx
