There’s plenty of confidence books on the market. But what are the best books on confidence? Or more specifically, the best books on building confidence? What can you read that will make a real difference to how you act, feel and behave?
Well my friends, you’ve come to the right place! Whether you’re struggling with confidence after a breakup, whilst dating, or even just when single / in a relationship – this is the master guide for you!
See, I’ve been searching high and low for the best books to build self confidence – specifically when it comes to how you feel in yourself, and the key areas of low self esteem that affect dating, relationships and your love life.
It’s time for a transformation, my friends! It’s time to start being the person you want to be; to recreate yourself if you need! And that starts by swatting up and working on how you feel within. So let’s get stuck in…
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Top 10 Books On Building Confidence
So when it comes to the TYPES of books on confidence, I’ve looked for the ones that focus on building confidence within yourself.
You can then apply it to work situations, romantic relationships, or just about anything!
Sounds good? Then let’s get stuck in! Here’s our top 10 recommendations for the best books to build confidence…
1) Unstoppable Self Confidence
By Andrew Leedham
So let’s start our self confidence books off with, “Unstoppable Self Confidence!” Even the title sounds pretty mighty, right?!
“99% of people go through almost their whole lives never really feeling good about who they are, never really liking themselves and never thinking that they are enough.
And as a result, they live a life that is a tiny fraction of what it could be, the life they have settled for instead of the life they dreamed of.
If you are not yet living the life of your dreams, the chances are that this is you too. But here’s the good news: you already have everything you need to be confident and successful and to live the life you want on your terms.
You only need to UNLEARN all the bad programming and wrong thinking that you’ve been given to unleash the incredible power within you. This book will show you how…”
Having been in a bad place, lacking in confidence himself, I really like how relatable the author, Andrew Leedham is, and how practical the book is too.
Andrew has created a no-nonsense, application-specific guide, with powerful strategies and principals. It’s well worth giving a go.
2) The Confidence Gap
By Russ Harris
Next up, we’ve got “The Confidence Gap”, which is all about overcoming self-doubt.
It’s a book that I personally have read and is a particular favourite as it draws on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and mindfulness practices, to offer breakthrough insights and simple techniques for developing deep-seated, long-lasting confidence.
“Russ Harris offers a surprising solution to low self-confidence, shyness, and insecurity: Rather than trying to “get over” our fears, he says, the secret is to form a new and wiser relationship with them.
Paradoxically, it’s only when we stop struggling against our fearfulness that we begin to find lasting freedom from it.”
3) Wire Your Brain For Confidence
By Louise Jewell
What else have we got? Well, “Wire Your Brain For Confidence” may be less recognised, but just as good (if not better!) than many confidence books out there. See for yourself!
I especially like this one as it looks at the SCIENCE of confidence. This then gives you confidence in the recommendations – knowing that it’s fully backed up!
“Do you ever wonder why you are confident in some areas of your life and yet in other areas, you have so much fear and self-doubt?
The good news is scientists have discovered the formula on how you can wire your brain for a more action-oriented kind of confidence that boosts your courage to act, even when you’re feeling afraid.”
Wire Your Brain For Confidence isn’t too heavy. It also includes stories, reflection questions, and exercises… to get you taking action.
Can you tell it’s one of my top favourites?!
4) The Self-Love Workbook For Women
By Megan Logan
To break up the stream of “Confidence” titles, I want to throw in a different one now, which is The Self-Love Workbook by Megan Logan.
It says for women, but it’s for anyone really. And I recommend it, as Self-Love and Self Confidence work hand-in-hand (it’s like butter on bread – could you really have it without it?!)
See the goal of the book is to release self-doubt, build self-compassion and embrace who you are – as you work to discover that, actually, there is so so much to love about yourself!
By using this book, you are then able to improve your relationship, both with yourself and with others. (Just what we want, right?!)
Filled with proven techniques and easy-to-apply activities, it’s certainly a self-confidence book that’s well worth considering; not to mention one of the best self love books for women.
OR: The Self-Confidence Workbook
By Barbara Markway and Celia Ampel
The alternative to the Self-Love Workbook for Women is the gender-neutral “Self-Confidence Workbook: A Guide to Overcoming Self-Doubt and Improving Self-Esteem.“
“From facing your fears to practicing acceptance and self-compassion, this book offers practical, accessible strategies to help you bring out your best self.
You’ll learn how to guide yourself through self-confidence land mines, with a goal-oriented approach, and proven strategies to teach you how to silence the self-critic within and guide you toward living your best life with confidence.”
I really like this book as it puts YOU back in control, and working yourself through the things you need to. Highly recommend!
5) What to Say When You Talk to Your Self
By Shad Helmstetter
Another great book for building self esteem is the top-rated What To Say When You Talk To Yourself.
Why? Well because it gets you far more aware of the things you say, the impact it has and – most importantly – how to create positive changes.
Shad Helmsetter’s simple but profound techniques, based on an understanding of the processes of the human brain, have enabled thousands of people to get back in control of their lives.
By learning how to talk to yourself in new ways, you will notice a dramatic improvement in all areas of your life and relationships. Click here for more details.
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Now when it comes to personal development books, I MUCH prefer listening. I find you get through them faster, they’re more engaging and it just works far better for me.
Many of these books on building confidence are also available on Audible for free, when you grab a free trial. (Such an added bonus!) So you can actually see how well they work for you on there.
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6) Not Nice
By Dr. Aziz Gazipura
Next up it’s “Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty… And Start Speaking up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, and Unapologetically Being Yourself!”
And okay so this one has got to have the LONGEST TITLE EVER (right?!) but whilst we’re on the topics of audiobooks, a super popular confidence book being promoted on Audible right now is this one!
It’s got incredible reviews and is all about…
- Easily say “no” when you want to and need to
- Confidently and effectively asking for what you want
- Speaking up more freely in all your relationships
- Eliminating feelings of guilt, anxiety, and worry about what others will think.
It’s definitely another game-changer (if a little controversial at times!)
7) Unf*ck Yourself
By Gary John Bishop
Keeping with the theme of controversial books on building confidence, next up, we’ve got the fabulous “Unf*ck Yourself!“
It’s bold, it’s out there, but it’s actually a book full of real-talk and straight-to-the-point advice that – if you apply – genuinely builds you up!
Learn how to:
- Combat self-doubt
- Deal with your inner critic
- Stop comparing yourself to others
- Break out of your rut
- Start feeling better about yourself NOW!
This is another one that I highly recommend listening to as an audiobook – as again, it’s very much like your best friend telling you some home-truths (you actually want to listen to!) then.
8) The Unlimited Self
By Jonathan Heston
Our next book to build self confidence is “The Unlimited Self” and doesn’t the title already just make you feel… inspired?!
This one is very much focused on uncovering and destroying your limiting beliefs – something that is fundamental when it comes to building confidence.
Here, as a taster into this topic, bob on over to this blog post about limiting beliefs, as it’s something we’ve touched on before too.
Are you are ready for the mindsets and skillets that allow you to destroy ANY limiting belief that is holding you back from your greatness?
If so… THE UNLIMITED SELF is for you.
9) Self Esteem ** Therapist Recommended **
By Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning
As we come towards the end of our list of books on building confidence, I want to do a particular shout out for “Self Esteem“.
“If you struggle with low self-esteem, or you’re seeking positive and effective ways of building a healthy sense of self-worth, this much-anticipated fourth edition of the best-selling classic by Matthew McKay is your go-to guide.
This fully revised edition features an innovative application of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) to self-esteem, and utilizes updated cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you create positive change and thrive.”
It’s packed full of up-to-date evidence-based tips and techniques!
Self-Esteem really does has everything you need to improve the way you see yourself for better overall well-being. I couldn’t recommend more!
10) The Gifts Of Imperfection
By Brené Brown
So we’ve reached our final #10 when it comes to books on building confidence and I see no better book to finish on than “The Gifts Of Imperfection.“
Brené Brown’s game-changing New York Times bestseller has sold more than 2 million copies in more than 30 different languages and is celebrating its 10th Anniversary in print!
Forbes magazine named Giftsone of the “Five Books That Will Actually Change Your Outlook On Life.”
“Now more than ever, we all need to cultivate feelings of self-worth, as well as acceptance and love for ourselves.
In a world where insults, criticisms, and fears are spread too generously alongside messages of unrealistic beauty, attainment, and expectation, we look for ways to “dig deep” and find truth and gratitude in our lives.
A new way forward means we can’t hold on too tightly to our own self-defeating thoughts or the displaced pain in our world. Instead, we can embrace the imperfection.”
Through this self-help classic you will find courage to overcome paralyzing fear and self-consciousness and believe that you are truly worthy – of love, of confidence, and of everything you want in life (and more!) It’s a cracking book, for sure!
The Best Books On Confidence
So there we have it – my top 10 recommendations when it comes to the best books on building confidence.
Be sure to click the links to check them out – or listen to them for free as an audiobook.
These confidence books have certainly helped me over the years so I hope they do the same for you too!
Good luck! Take care.