101 Powerful Breakup Affirmations To Help You Heal

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Looking for post breakup affirmations? Positive affirmations after a breakup, to help you to heal? Then you’ve come to the right place. Here’s 101 powerful breakup affirmations – plus, how to use them. We’ll also guide you on how to create your own affirmations after a breakup and, bit by bit, help to build you back up. So let’s get stuck in, shall we?

What Are Breakup Affirmations?

So first up, before we get into our affirmations for breakups, you may be wondering what a breakup affirmation actually is.

Well, essentially, affirmations are short, powerful statements or phrases that are repeated, consistently, to help you foster particular beliefs or challenge negative / unhelpful thoughts.

Breakup affirmations are therefore statements about or relating to, your breakup – aiming to shift the way you think and feel about it.

Do Breakup Affirmations Actually Work?

Now you may think, “just saying something doesn’t make it true!” and this is true.

However, affirmations are still incredibly powerful – and that’s something that’s proved by science.

See, a study published in the journal Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience (1) used MRI to reveal that:

“practising self-affirmation activates the reward centres in your brain.”

And sure, saying, “I feel ok after my breakup” may not automatically actually make you FEEL and ACT that way. There’s no instant quick-fix and saying something a million times over, doesn’t actually make it true.

But (and this is a big but!) – it will light up the same reward system in your brain, that would be triggered if you DID feel ok after your breakup…

See, ultimately, affirmations fire up your neural pathways and makes changes to the areas of the brain that make you happy and positive… 

And when you’re in that state, you’re able to better do the things you need to do, to work through the tough times that a breakup bring and start to heal.

(Hence why affirmations after a breakup are such a great tool!)

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How To Create Your Own Affirmations After a Breakup

Now, we’re about to run through 101 beautiful breakup affirmations, that will genuinely help you.

But the most powerful ones – are the ones you come up with yourself… As these will resonate the closest and deepest with you.

So, when it comes to how to create your own breakup affirmations, you want to:

  1. Read this list for inspiration.
  2. Grab a notepad and pen.
  3. Look at the things that are playing on your mind / getting you down the most.
  4. Then, look at what beliefs / words of encouragement you could tell yourself, to challenge these, or get you through this.
  5. Now, the key, key, KEY, part to creating positive affirmations after a breakup, is to make sure you BELIEVE what you’re saying and know – even if it’s deep down – that it’s true.
  6. So the last step to creating your own breakup affirmations, is to have an “Evidence List” next to each breakup affirmation. This outlines the reasons and “proof” why the affirmation is actually true.

For Example…

Let’s give an example of this process, broken down.

So, for instance, you might make a list of why you’re hurting after a breakup and know – in the top of your mind – that one of the things you can’t seem to let go of, is the fact that your ex cheated on you. (Euggh. What a weak guy!)

You recognise the thoughts going around in your head, like: “How could he do this to me?! Was I not good enough? Will I ever be able to trust again?”

But instead of dwelling on these limiting beliefs, you start jotting down breakup affirmations that could challenge them.

So you may think, “Well if it was my friend who had been through this, I’d remind her that…”

  • “Your past is not your future.”
  • “The way someone treats you, is no reflection on you.”
  • “You are enough, and have always been enough.”
  • “Not everyone is the same, and everyone deserves their own blank canvas to paint.”

Although – right now – you may know these things are true, you may not fully believe they’re true (because you’re hurting), but that’s why you’d then establish these into powerful breakup affirmations to embed them in your mind and shift the way you think / feel.

Remember, you’ll also have your “Evidence List” to go with each of these statements.

These, you won’t read out loud, every time, but you will read them if you need to back up your breakup affirmations a little more and remind yourself that they are indeed, the case.

You can also utilise these Breakup Gifts (for yourself!) which embed key messages like this in your mind even further.

And of course, you should also try these relaxation techniques when you need to, to calm down and allow yourself to think a little clearer and embed these breakup affirmations deeper.

Do you see how it works now? Understand it a little better? Great stuff!

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How To Use Breakup Affirmations

Once you have your breakup affirmations, when it comes to when or how to use them, it’s really quite simple… It’s also very flexible too.

So you might want to:

1) Read your breakup affirmations every morning when you wake up.

2) Read your breakup affirmations every night before you go to bed.

3) Use your breakup affirmations to change your state / mood when you’re feeling down.

The easiest way to do this is to save them on your “notes” tab on your phone, then get into the habit of reading them when you need a little boost!

4) Get into the habit of reading your breakup affirmations throughout the day, to keep you on track and focused.

For this, the easiest thing to do is set a reminder alarm at different points in your day – particularly on your “breaks” or during alone time, when you’re likely to start thinking about your ex.

Initially, you may find you need to use your breakup affirmations more. Especially if you’ve not long been single, or are trying to get in the right headspace to start dating again.

Then as time goes on, they’ll be better embedded in your mind, more naturally, and come to you more naturally too… Without you having to consciously think about reciting them.

Your breakup affirmations may also change as time goes on, as to begin with – it may be all about trying to feel better after a breakup… trying to get through it.

Then from there, it’s likely to shift to trying to thrive after a breakup. So the tone and mission will evolve, and that’s natural, normal and to be encouraged.

101 Powerful Breakup Affirmations

We’re now ready to move onto these powerful breakup affirmations now. (Woohoo!)

Remember to have a read through, see which ones stand out to you, make a note of them, then tweak them or use them as inspiration to come up with your own affirmations after a breakup.

The most important thing is that you’re left with some empowering post breakup affirmations, that will genuinely uplift, encourage and support you through.

So without further ado, and in no particular order now, here’s 101 powerful breakup affirmations to get the ball rolling…

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Affirmations After a Breakup

Some of the things you may want to tell yourself, or embed into your mind, include:

1) I know that this pain will not last forever.

2) I will get through this.

3) This has happened for a reason.

4) I will soon be thankful for the breakup.

5) The breakup was the right thing.

6) The breakup will lead to better things.

7) I will learn and grow from my past relationship.

8) I am becoming a better person from this.

9) This had to happen, in order for me to meet the right person.

10) My ex was not the right person for me.

Let’s Keep Them Coming…

11) I trust this process and know that I will heal.

12) This is going to be a blessing in disguise.

13) I accept my feelings as they are.

14) It’s okay to feel hurt and sad. 

15) It’s natural to feel the way that I do.

16) My heart is hurting, but it will heal.

17) I accept this breakup. (Whether I like it or not!)

18) I will not fight my feelings, nor the situation.

19) I know that I will go on to find love… All in the right time.

20) I am ok, I am safe, I am well.

Things to remind yourself after a breakup

Post Breakup Affirmations

21) I am still loved and deserving of being loved.

(Psst, build on this further with these I Am Loved Affirmations…)

22) The right person will love me for everything and all that I am.

23) I am not a failure.

24) This breakup does not define me.

25) The relationship didn’t fail. It simply wasn’t right.

26) Only I can determine my worth.

27) I have so much to be grateful for.

28) I will choose to focus on the positives, rather than the negatives.

29) What happens next – is in my hands.

30) My heart will heal.

What Else Have We Got?…

31) I am already in the process of healing.

32) This is all part of the process.

33) This is making me stronger and wiser.

34) I will come out of this far happier.

35) I can heal from this far faster – so long as I don’t fight it.

36) This breakup will lead to better things.

37) I deserve the kind of relationship I’ve always dreamed of having.

38) I will be loved in a way that I want and deserve.

39) My standards and expectations are not realistic.

40) I am releasing the things that are no longer good for me.

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Positive Affirmations After a Breakup

41) I will not settle, and should not settle.

42) Every day, I am healing more and more, even if I don’t always realise it.

43) I am allowed to heal, without feeling guilty about it.

44) It’s okay that I am not, and was not always, perfect.

45) This is a key stage of my life and development.

46) It doesn’t matter how slow I move forward, so long as I keep moving forward.

47) I just need to take this day by day.

48) I’m simply going to get through this one day at a time.

49) Caring for myself is the most important thing now.

50) I need to prioritise myself and put myself first.

Psst, like these? Then grab them as a printable…

Breakup Affirmation Cards

Let’s Keep Them Coming…

51) I deserve to prioritise myself and put myself first.

52) My happiness is my number 1 priority now.

53) I neglected myself for too long… Well, not anymore.

54) Being kind to myself is essential to my healing.

55) Forgiveness is essential to letting go and moving on.

56) I am strong and powerful.

57) I can be the bigger person here… And I will be.

58) I am strong enough to get through this.

59) Nothing will beat me.

60) No-one will knock me down.

Affirmations for breakups

Uplifting Breakup Affirmations

61) I will focus on me, and only me.

62) I can find happiness, in even the smallest of things.

63) This will be the turning point for me, and my life.

64) This breakup will not stop me for long.

65) My pain is only temporary.

66) I will not make the same mistakes again.

67) I will learn from this, and be better from this.

68) It’s time for me to let go.

69) These experiences are shaping me for the better.

70) These experiences are leading me to the life I deserve to live.

We’re Storming Through These Now…

71) I know that I will soon be at peace with all of these feelings.

72) I fully commit to learning to love myself unconditionally from here.

73) I’m excited for what the future holds.

74) I will use this time to work on myself – to become the best version of me.

75) My past is not my present, nor is it my future.

76) This can be my fresh start; my next chapter.

77) I will not let my past experiences, sabotage my happiness from here.

78) I refuse to let my past relationship taint my outlook.

79) Not everyone is the same. Nor will they treat me the same way.

80) There are good people in this world.

Affirmations after a breakup

Affirmations After a Breakup

81) I will always stay true to me… And continue to be the best that I can be.

82) I will not hold onto regrets.

83) I choose to let go of resentment.

84) It’s okay to remember, but essential to move on.

85) This breakup will not always hold so much power over me.

86) Ultimately, I am still the one in control.

87) I am grateful for the lessons this has taught me.

88) I know that I did the right thing.

89) When I love myself more, others will love me more too.

90) I can’t force myself to feel great, but I’m not giving up.

Onto The Last Ones…

91) I have the power to be everything I want to be, from here.

92) This is a fresh, new, exciting opportunity.

93) I will not give up, I will get through this.

94) I don’t have to be “strong” all the time.

95) You have to feel your emotions, in order to release them.

96) I deserve to give myself a break.

97) A love that you can lose, is no real loss at all.

98) My past relationship was just a chapter in my life. And it’s okay to move onto the next one.

99) I’m grateful for my past relationship, but I know that I do not need to hold onto it.

100) Everything happens for a reason… And that’s not actually a cliche!

101) The best, really is, yet to come.

That’s All For This One

So there we have it – 101 powerful breakup affirmations, how to use them, why they work and how to make up your own positive affirmations after a breakup.

(Phew! We covered quite a lot there, huh?!)

I hope you’ve found this helpful, and that it makes a positive difference in your journey to healing after heartbreak.

When you’re ready, you can then move on to using these dating affirmations. But step by step – that’s all it takes.

Good luck, and take care!


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Ella Stearn
Ell is a Breakup, Dating & Relationship Specialist & Coach, with over 3 million annual readers, globally. As the Creator of Forgetting Fairytales, her mission is to help you learn to love yourself, find the right person to give your love to, then make it a love that truly lasts.

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