The Ultimate 200+ Couples Question Game (You Have To Play!)

Looking for fun questions for couples? Then try our Ultimate Couples Question Game – it’s the perfect FREE date night idea, guaranteed to bring you closer.

That’s right, studies show that “couples who spend more time talking to each other report greater satisfaction, closeness, and more positive perceptions of their relationship.”

When you play a fun couples question game like this – you really are strengthening your relationship, whilst enjoying quality time together and making lasting memories, without having to spend a cent!

It’s a pretty rare combination, which is why we can’t vouch for this free date night idea enough.

How It Works

We’ve purposely crafted these fun questions for couples, so that you can play it as a couples question game.

• We’ve created 200 fun questions to ask your partner, broken down into 4 main categories: Questions About Them, Questions About You, Questions About the Relationship and Questions About Love.
• You can pick and choose questions from each category, or break them down into 4 different free home date nights. It’s entirely up to you.
• Fancy making it a little competitive? Then tally up the points you both got “right” and the one with the most points, wins.
• Want to make it more relaxed? Then forget the point scoring. Simply work your way through the couples questions, using them more like conversation starters, as and when you want or need.

The great thing is, it’s super flexible and based around you! So you can use it in whichever way works best for the two of you.

The Ultimate Couples Question Game

So let’s get stuck in, shall we? Starting with Round 1 of the Couples Question Game…

Round 1: Questions About Them

The first section in our couples question game is “Questions About Them.”

These fun questions for couples will help you get to know your partner (or see how well you know them already!)

This is always an interesting one, and you can extend it further with these how well do you know me questions if you really want to test this to the max!

Ask your partner these questions so that you can really get to know them on a deeper level…

1) What would you say you are most passionate about?

2) What is your biggest fear? (And no, spiders don’t count – you can go deeper than that!)

EXTRA QUESTION PROMPT: What is it that you find especially scary about this?

3) If you could achieve ONE life goal, what would it be?

4) If you could describe yourself in 3 words, what would they be?

5) How high would you rate your confidence on a scale of 1-10?

DID YOU KNOW: 85% of people report struggling with self-confidence issues at some point in their lives, is this can be an interesting discussion point in itself!

6) What personality trait do you like most and least about yourself?

7) And what physical feature do you like most and least about yourself? 

8) Would you rather be smart or attractive? And which one do you think you are more?!

9) What’s one thing only I (or very few people) know about you?

Got any new info you can share? Now’s the time! This couples question game is designed to test you, after all! It’s the perfect opportunity to open up and share more!

Let’s Keep Going…

10) Do you think I can read you well? Or do I often not notice / interpret things wrong?

11) If you could have three wishes right now, in this moment, what would they be?

(Make this a quick answer if you can. Tell your partner they have 30 seconds to decide on the spot… otherwise the wishes will disappear! See what jumps out to them first.)

12) If you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would you be and why?

13) What would be your dream job?

14) How would you spend your time when you retire?

(You can ask this question in two ways. First- if they had unlimited money, and then- based on what they think they’d be able to do realistically!)

15) If you could go back to any age in your life – which year would you choose and why?

16) If you could meet one person (from any era in time), who would it be and why?

17) What are your top three greatest achievements in your life so far?

Keep Asking These Questions About Them…

18) If you could change one thing about yourself (in terms of habits of characteristics), what would it be and why?

19) If you could find out one thing about your future, what would you want to know? And, what would you do if it wasn’t the answer you wanted but you couldn’t change it?

20) What’s your favourite food / meal / desert / fruit / chocolate / drink? Etc. You get the picture!

21) What is your favourite book / song / movie / tv series? Etc.

If this is a little too broad, then use our “This Or That” Quick-Fire Questions to narrow down the options for your partner, and have them pick and choose from THIS or THAT.

22) What’s one of the first things you think about when you wake up?

23) What’s the weirdest dream you’ve ever had? Or one you’ve had recently?

24) Have you ever slept walked or slept talked?!

We’re Half Way Through Round 1…

25) What do you think are the main things that have shaped you into who you are now?

26) Who are your 5 – 10 favourite people on this planet?! (And yes, you can add furry friends onto this at the end, too!)

27) If you could go back to school, which classes would you like to do again?

28) What’s the silliest thing you’ve ever done?

29) Is there any advice you wish you could give to your younger self? What would you tell yourself at what age? And do you think you would have listened?!

30) Who was your first crush / your first kiss / your first boyfriend / girlfriend – and how long did that last? (We’re talking primary school sort of relationships here. Not serious ones!)

31) What small things bring meaning to your life?

32) What are some of the simple things make you happy?

33) What kind of music could you listen to, all night long, and never get bored of?

34) If you could wear just one outfit for a whole year (day and night, that’s all you had in your wardrobe) – what would it be? NOTE: you’re allowed to layer up for winter! 

35) Do you think you’re an optimist, pessimist or realist? And which do you think is the best one to be, plus why?

Onto The Last Ones…

36) What do you think makes you different from a lot of your friends?

37) How often do you find yourself getting lost in your own thoughts?

38) What do find allows you to best switch off when there’s lots of things on your mind?

39) Do you have any regrets in your life so far?

40) What do you think are the most common mistakes that people our age tend to make?

41) What is the hardest lesson you’ve had to learn? And what made you truly learn from it?

42) What do you think is the most challenging thing about breaking a bad habit?

43) Do you have a “purpose” in your life?

Let’s Keep Going…

44) What’s one thing that you’re passionate about that most people don’t know about? And why is it that tends to be more hidden do you think?

TOP TIP: Always try to ask probing questions. Not only is it a way to show that you’re actively listening and genuinely interested, but it also helps you to truly understand your partner more.

45) What hobby do you think you’d be most likely to try next?

On that note – these couples “most likely to” questions can be pretty revealing and fun! They get you comparing the two of you and discussing different things you probably wouldn’t have thought of!

46) What are 3 things you’re actually really proud of?

47) Who do you think is your biggest celebrity lookalike? And which celebrity would you most LIKE to look like?!

48) What’s 1 thing you really want to accomplish in the next year?

49) What do you think is the most challenging aspect of your life right now?

EXTRA QUESTION PROMPT: And how could I better support you through this?

50) What’s 1 thing you actually spend a surprising amount of time thinking about, on a regular basis? (This can be big or small!)

Round 2: Questions About You

Moving onto round 2 of our couples question game and we’re going to flip it to focus on YOU!

That’s right, this section is less about how well you know your partner or how well they know you. Instead, it homes in on what they think about you. (Super juicy, I know!)

51) What’s your favourite quality in me?

52) How about your favourite physical feature of mine?

53) If you could describe me in 3 words, what would they be?

54) What’s one little quirk you love about me? Or something that I do, that makes you smile?

55) What was the biggest thing that attracted you to me? How did I draw you in?!

(BONUS Question For You: Did you recognise the signs he was falling for you, in the moments it was happening?! This can be super sweet to reminisce on.)

56) Do you think I’m easy to read? In what ways / situations, and how?

57) What makes you love me more? And how have your feelings grown over time? 

58) What’s one thing that frustrates you about me? (Be nice!)

59) What makes me different from other people you’ve been with?

60) What’s one thing you think no-one realises about me?

61) Have you ever been unsure about how I felt or if we were on the same page?

EXTRA QUESTION PROMPT: And why do you think this is? Was this down to my behaviour, or something more to do with you? (Try to make this a safe space to really open up.)

Let’s Keep Them Coming…

62) How many times do you think you cross my mind over the course of the day?

63) What is the nicest thing I’ve ever done for you?

64) On the flip side, what do you think is something I’ll never forget you doing for me?

65) If you were going to plan a super extravagant surprise for me (and money wasn’t a cost) – what would you do for me? What do you think I would most like and why? 

66) What’s one thing that I’ve done for you that surprised you? Or one thing that will always stay with you?

67) What’s one thing you think you don’t tell me enough (if at all), but which you want me to know?

(We love this one. Remember, there’s plenty of different ways to say I love you. This question is designed to bring this out more!)

Keep Learning & Growing Together…

68) What side do you think that I bring out of you, and why do you like this?

69) What do you think I am most scared of?

(Again, just like with our Questions About Them, really go deeper with this one and talk about the reasons why, plus potentially even how you could overcome them.)

70) If you could ask me one question (anything in the world!) what would you want to know? 

71) What’s your favourite outfit of mine and why?

72) If you could take me anywhere on a romantic get-away, where would we go, and why?

(Psst, and yes, you can use this to then do a romantic gesture for your partner!)

73) If you could grant me one wish (but you couldn’t ask me what I wanted) what would you give me and why?

74) What do you think I believe in which you think isn’t true?

75) What’s one thing you think I’d change about myself? This one’s a bit risky – be careful!

We’re Half Way Through…

76) What is one thing that holds me back?

(Find these questions a little more thought provoking… But actually kind of like it?! Then ask yourself these questions to get to know yourself better, to get yourself thinking and exploring more!)

77) What’s a talent that I have, which I don’t even realise?

78) Which TV character / book character / celebrity, do I remind you of the most?

79) What’s one thing you see in me, which you think not many other people do?

80) When do you think was the last time I cried? (Either with sadness or laughter, both count!)

81) What job do you think would fit my personality style perfectly?

82) If you were stuck on a desert island with one of my friends or family, who would you choose and why? (Think tactically!)

83) How long do you think I could go without …enter variable here…?

84) What’s my favourite …enter any variable here…?

85) Tell me one thing you want me to know… right now… go, go, go!

TOP TIP: Try to get into the habit of being more inquisitive about your partner. It’s a great way to keep the spark alive and switch the small talk to interesting, insightful discussions!

Onto The Last Ones…

86) How well do you think I’m able to handle my emotions, day to day?

87) What do you think are my biggest insecurities? And do they ever get in the way of my life or our relationship, do you think?

88) What do you admire most about me?

89) How do you think I have changed or grown in the last year?

90) Who do you think is generally more mature – you or I? And why?

91) Are there any small, bad habits you really wish I’d change?

92) Have I ever given you “the ick”?! And how did you get over it?!

Psst, we want to mix in some light, fun and even comical questions like these in our couples question game. Try not to take things too personally. 🫶

93) What are 3 things you think make me a really great partner?

94) What are 3 things you think would (or do) make me a really great parent?

Nearly there…

95) How would you best describe my sense of humour?

96) In what ways do you think I am completely different to you? And what do you think about this?

97) What do you think was the hardest thing to truly understand about me or my character?

98) Are there any things you wish you could change about my past? And why?

This is a really great question for a couples game, as it gives you the opportunity to address things that may be difficult to bring up. Just grab a tissue ready! You might need one!

99) What do you think are 3 things that make me truly special?

Some of these questions you may find uncomfortable to ask. Remember – you’re not testing your partner or fishing for compliments. It’s simply all part of the game and is purposely designed to bring you closer… So embrace them! Don’t be shy!

100) How do I make you, and everyone around me, happy?

Round 3: Relationship Questions

We’ve officially reached the half-way mark for our couples question game now, so round 3 brings some specific relationship questions into the mix.

These questions are generally pretty cute. They’ll get you talking about the relationship and reminiscing, but also learning about what’s most important to you both.

(Remember, it’s good to ask more intimate questions in a relationship. It brings you closer.)

Just bear in mind – it’s also not a bad thing to ask more difficult relationship questions… Don’t shy away from these!

You’re not testing your partner’s love. They’re there to simply allow you to learn more. So let’s get stuck in, shall we?

101) In what ways do you think we are similar? And in what ways do you think we are different?

EXTRA QUESTION PROMPT: Do you think we have more similarities or more differences? And which is more important in a relationship, plus why?

102) How do you think we complement each other? What makes us work so well as a couple?

103) If you could describe our relationship in 3 words, what would they be?

104) What are some of your favourite memories of us?

105) If you could change 1 thing about the relationship, what would it be?

106) If our relationship was like a movie, which one would it be?

(Think of some of the best romcoms or love dramas even! You can then schedule a date to watch this movie back together… That’s then an extra special date idea.)

107) Before you met me, did you have any unrealistic expectations about love and what a relationship should be like? How has this changed / evolved over the years? And do you think it was right to? If so, why?

Let’s Keep Them Coming…

108) Who do you think fell in love first, you or I?

(Try not to get too caught up on this one. What matters is that you both share the same level of love – regardless of if you have different ways of showing it – now! Speaking of which…)

109) What makes you feel the most loved? How do you like to receive love?

110) What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever done or would like to do? 

(Without giving away any future ideas / romantic surprises!)

111) Do you think we share the same values and morals?

112) How about attachment styles – do you think we have the same attachment style in the relationship? And why is this a good / bad thing?

How Are You Guys Getting On?

113) What things do you need from me in order to feel happy, safe, secure and fulfilled in a relationship?

114) Do you think we want the same things in this relationship, and in life? In which ways is this the same and in which ways could it be different?

115) If you could have only kisses OR cuddles for the rest of your life, which would you choose?

116) What would be your idea of our ‘happily ever after…’? What would be your dream relationship vision and picture, for where you see us going or would like to see us?

117) What would be your favourite male and female baby names?

(No pressure with this one, of course! It’s just one of the fun questions for couples!)

118) Do you see us having kids together and if so, what kind of parents do you think we would be? OR: Do you see us having anymore children together? How would you summarise our parenting style and how might it change / evolve?

119) Do you see us getting married, and if so, what kind of wedding would we have? OR: If you were go back and do our wedding again, would you change any things?

We’re Flying Through These Now…

120) What are you most proud of us for, in our relationship?

Think not only of the things you’ve achieved as a couple, but the things you’ve worked through / overcome. Think about what bad relationship habits you may have broken. These are certainly things to acknowledge and celebrate too.)

121) How do you think that you’re a good partner? And how could you improve?

122) What do you think makes me a good partner? And how could I improve?

123) What makes you feel close to me? 

124) What does it feel like when you hold me? Kiss me? Touch me? 

125) What do you think when you look at me?  

126) Are there any things that makes you feel vulnerable in the relationship? 

Let’s Keep Them Coming…

127) Do you feel like you can talk to me about anything? And is there anything you wish we spoke about more? Or anything you wish you could speak more freely about?

INTERESTING READ: There are actually 7 common things couples find difficult to share with their partner, so you’re likely to not be alone on this.

128) Do you think we have good communication? Rate it on a scale of 1-10!

129) How do you think we deal with conflict? Do we have similar or different styles?

130) What do you think is the best way to “make up” after conflict? And do you think we settle it this way enough? 

131) Do you think our relationship would still last if we had a long distance relationship? Say we lived in different cities/ counties / countries? And if yes, how would you make it work?

132) Have you ever doubted how much I love you? And if so, when / why?

133) Who do you think knows who better in our relationship?

134) What lessons have you learnt from your past relationships, which have made ours stronger or better?

We’re Storming Through These Now…

135) If we could be like one celebrity couple, who would you pick? #CoupleGoals

136) If we were to make new pet names for each other, what would you go for? What would you call me and what would you like yours to be? 

137) What’s your most embarrassing memory of us? 

138) What are three things you’d love us to do together?

139) What do you wish we’d make more time for?

(Remember, quality time is vitally important, in itself. But there’s plenty of ways to make more time for quality time in a relationship… Thankfully!)

140) Do you think we spend too much time together or too little?

141) If we looked a different way do you think we’d still be together today?

142) What’s one thing you think would make our relationship stronger?

(It could be as simple as learning how to let things go in a relationship… So that the little things don’t become big things!)

Onto The Last Ones…

143) What would you say is the biggest challenge we’ve gotten through as a couple?

144) What do you think we can take for granted about the other person?

145) How do you think we’ve changed both as individuals and as a couple, since we first got together? (For better and for worse!)

146) What’s 1 thing you learnt about me when we were dating, that you really didn’t expect? Or 1 thing you learnt only once we’d been in a relationship for a while?!

147) What do you think are our greatest strengths as a couple?

148) Have you ever questioned if I was right for you? When and why? What did you go on to conclude?

(This may sound like quite a tricky question, but remember what we said – tough relationship questions are important at times too! This couples question game is meant to push you!)

149) What things do you think are really quite special about our relationship?

150) What memories are you excited for us to make as a couple?

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Want To Add In Some Dares?

Enjoying our Couples Question Game? Don’t want it to end? Then spice it up with some COUPLES DARES! That’s right – we’ve crafted 160 dares designed specifically for you and your partner. Does your partner not want to answer some of these relationship questions? Then the forfeit is to do one of these fun, flirty, sexy or silly couples dares!

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Round 4: Questions About Love

Last but not least, we’ve made it onto the final round 4 of the couples question game.

For this bit, we’re going to ask general questions about love and relationships. This is -arguably- the most interesting category yet, as it really explores your partners views against your own.

Remember, it’s not a bad thing to have different opinions, but it is important to try to explore and understand your partner’s perspective.

Creating topical discussions is actually a great way to build intellectual intimacy – one of the important types of intimacy your relationship needs, so this is a great mini taster into it.

So without further ado, let’s get stuck into these final fun questions for couples, shall we? To round it all up, ask your partner…

151) How do you know when you’re in love?

EXTRA QUESTION PROMPT: Compare this to when you were younger and what you thought love felt like and was, vs what you know it really is now.

152) Do you believe in love at first sight? Like, seriously? Do you think it is a real thing?

153) In your mind, is there such a thing as ‘soulmates’? Why / how is that possible? And how would you / do you know when you’ve found your soulmate?

Presumably they’ve found that in you, of course! But be open-minded to their answers!

EXTRA QUESTION PROMPT: Do you think it’s possible to have more than one soulmate in a lifetime? Why / why not? What other factors come into it?

154) What’s your views on marriage?

Try to really dig deep with this one, and ask more specific questions around common marriage views and your partner’s personal beliefs surrounding marriage.

Let’s Dig a Little Deeper…

155) Why do you think divorce rates are so high? And does that / had that ever put you off the idea of marriage?

156) Do you think people change when they’re in a relationship? For better or for worse? And in what ways?

What is natural, normal and healthy, and what isn’t? How do your views compare on this?

157) How much do you think you should compromise in a relationship? What things should they or shouldn’t they compromise on?

It may also be helpful to throw out specific examples or questions for this one. These can be generic or specific to the two of you and your relationship.

158) Do you believe that star signs hold any value to compatibility in a relationship?

159) What is the most important type of love, and why?

160) Do you think ex’s can be friends? Why / why not? And what are your personal boundaries with this?

161) Do you think it’s common for ex’s to get back together? Why / why not? And does it then work?

162) What do you think is the best thing about being in a relationship?

163) What do you think is the best relationship advice we’ve ever been given? Or the best relationship advice you’ve heard?

Let’s Keep Them Coming…

164) What’s 1 thing that scares you about love?

165) How easy do you think it is to fall in love, for the vast majority of people?

166) Why do you think people fall out of love? And do you think that means they’re not truly compatible?

167) How common do you think it is for people to THINK they’re in love, but actually they’re not? And what do you think are the key differences between this? (E.G. Is it love or lust?)

168) Do you think it’s difficult to trust others in a romantic relationship? Should people be wary?

169) What does it mean to you to be able to trust someone fully? What does that look like? How should it be, in your mind?

170) How do you think trust can be rebuilt once it’s broken? (If you think it can be.) 

171) What would you class as cheating? For instance, if your partner has a crush on someone else, is that being unfaithful?

That’s right – you can use a fun couples question game to broach important relationship questions around boundary-setting too. It’s a more casual way to go about it that helps to reduce conflict.

172) What’s worse, an emotional affair or a physical one? And why?

173) Do you believe in karma? (Particularly when it comes to mistreatment in a relationship?

We’re Nearly Half Way Through….

174) How much weight do you think a person should put on the opinions of others when it comes to relationships?

For example, if your family didn’t like / approve of me as a partner, would it influence your decision to be with me? Should it or should it not? And why?

175) How involved do you think a family should be in a relationship?

176) What do you think are the signs of an unhealthy relationship?

Keep Learning About Each Other…

177) What do you think makes a relationship healthy, happy and long lasting? (Or ever lasting!)

178) What kind or romantic gestures do you think should be the “norm” in a relationship?

179) What do you think is the strongest type of connection in a relationship – a physical connection or emotional connection? 

180) What do you think causes the most problems in a relationship?

181) Do you think it matters if one person earns more than the other in a relationship? And how can this cause problems, looking at it from both situations and both sides?

Let’s Keep Them Coming…

182) What do you think is the hardest thing about finding a life-long partner?

183) What do you think is the best and worst thing about dating today?

184) Would you rather have extraordinary love that doesn’t last forever, or ordinary love that does? And why?

185) Would you …enter a crazy scenario here… for love?

If you liked this question, you should 100% check out these funny questions to ask your partner – they’re purposely designed to bring out the giggles!

186) What do you think most people are scared about in relationships, and why?

187) What impact do you think that social media has on relationships?

188) Do you think that love should be taught in schools? What things specifically should be taught about love?

189) What 3 things do you wish you could tell your younger self about love and relationships?

That’s right, deep questions about love are always a great addition to a couples question game!

It’s Time To Round Up This Couples Question Game Now…

190) How important is romantic love to you in your life, and why?

191) What do you think is the most beautiful thing about love?

192) What do you think is the hardest thing about being in love?

193) Why do you think people still mistreat people that they love? And can they really, truly love them if they do?

194) Do you think you need to love yourself in order to fully love another person? Why / why not? In what ways is self love important?

195) In what ways do you think you can best show love to yourself? And in what ways do you do this? What self love habits have you developed over the years and why?

196) How do you think your family and upbringing has influenced the way you see love?

197) What TV shows do you think negatively or positively influence the way people perceive love and relationships today?

198) In what ways do you think relationships have changed over the last 100+ years?

199) If you could go back to any era for the purpose of experiencing love, dating and relationships back then, what year would you go to and why?

200) How do you think relationships vary depending on which countries or cultures you live in?

If you like these, we have plenty more Questions About Love to keep them flowing!

That’s a Wrap!

So there we have it – that rounds up our top 200 fun questions for couples to complete the ULTIMATE Couples Question Game.

Remember, you don’t have to do all of these questions in one go – save this article so you can keep coming back to it.

If you liked this, it would also mean the world if you let us know by dropping a comment below!

After that, you may like to move onto our Couples Trivia Questions. Uh huh, we’ve stocked you up with another 200+ questions over there, which puts your knowledge of your partner, well and truly to the test!

Just be sure to keep talking… And know that you never have to stick to small talk. There’s endless couples questions or couples question games to play. It doesn’t have to get dull, trust me!

Wishing you all the very best.

Love,
Ell_xx