I’m a sucker for a good love story, so I thought I’d share ours, on how I met my soulmate (by complete chance, might I add.)
NOTE: This is part of my NEW Happily Ever After blog series, which I’ll update – well – as and when I get around to it.
See, I want to create a space that’s more for me than for you. I don’t share my personal life on socials, but I want somewhere that I can look back on in years to come, that shares JUST how far we’ve come.
See, right now, I am genuinely living the life I’ve always dreamt of. There is so much to be thankful for and treasure.
And so my “happily ever after” section, goes “back to basics” with personal blogging stories, sharing some of my most precious memories… starting with, how I met my soulmate!
How I Met My Soulmate (By Complete Chance!)
So, how did I meet my soulmate, by complete and utter chance?! (His name is Adam, by the way, otherwise known as Ad.)
Well, to paint a little picture – we’d just gotten through practically 2 years of COVID with lockdown restrictions (ah, those were seriously NOT the days) and this was the first night where everything had officially re-opened…
Restaurants, bars, and nightclubs… They were finally BACK 👯
Now, I nearly didn’t make it out…
That’s right, you’d never believe it, but one of my friends had gotten COVID and I had mistakenly received an incorrect “stay at home” isolation demand.
Was I having it? FAT CHANCE OF THAT!
I phoned and phoned and phoned, until I finally got through to someone to exclaim, “there’s been a mistake!” Thankfully I was able to explain it all, without breaking the rules and having to have the police hunt me down. (Which they were supposedly doing at the time, so they say!) 😉
My ban got lifted just a couple of hours before I was due to go out. (But, thank God for that!!)
It was all a matter of coincidences…
Looking back, there were a few coincidences that night. A few, “imagine if…” scenarios where things could have gone differently and I’d never have been in the position to write about how I met my soulmate now!
See, Adam didn’t have any issues in going out. He was on it and READY. But, “fate” (if you believe in it) did also come into play in some way, because Adam ended up in a bar that he would never usually go to.
That’s right. He is predominantly a pub man. (Or he was at that point, before I encouraged his new-found love of cocktail bars!) But for whatever reason, he ended up in a bar that was not his typical “go to”, which again, helped our paths to cross.
What happened next…
So, we ended up in the same place, at the same time. Luck was on our side!
We’d never seen each other before – not even on dating apps. (In fact, there was no chance of us matching on there either as my “preferences” didn’t allow him in. Oops.)
But this is where the magic really started to happen…
It was a pretty busy night, so when my friends and I managed to find a table free, we grabbed it! My friends went to the bar for us and I waited at the table to “hold the fort!”
So there I sat, on my own-some, watching over for my friends… And that’s when I ended up locking eyes with Adam. 🥹
We got eye contact.
I looked away.
I couldn’t help but find myself looking back.
At that exact same moment, Adam also looked over to me again!
We both laughed…
It was cute and comical, and after a few back and forth’s, I finally gestured for him to just bloody well come over.
He did, and said hello with a pretty cheesy chat up line, which of course then also made me laugh.
The rest was pretty much history from there, honestly.
Did I know, right then, in that moment, that he was my soulmate?
OF COURSE NOT!
But I knew there was something seriously special there.
It felt like something out of the movies. We had this instant connection, this burning chemistry and naturally clicked.
I didn’t necessarily think it would lead anywhere after that. I was a realist. There were too many factors that would have suggested that it probably wouldn’t work out.
But Adam surprised me from the very first moment I met him, and he’s continued to do so every day from there…
See, after that unexpected encounter, we couldn’t seem to leave each other’s side.
We spent the rest of the night together – laughing, dancing, getting to know each other. (And Adam likes to always make a point of the fact he had to “fight off” a few men that night! Not literally though, of course.)
The following day, Adam proved he was a man of his word.
The first night we met, he said he’d climb the local hills / mountains the following morning and wave at me from up there, when he found out I had a perfect view of them from my apartment.
I said, “Yeah right! As if you’ll be doing any hiking the day after a heavy night of drinking!”
But he trooped up there, hungover, and sent me a pic. I’ve still got it to this day, somewhere.
He then didn’t really do anything by halves…
Before meeting me, Adam didn’t even think he was much of a romantic. Yet, for our first date – it wasn’t just any first date.
See, Adam handed me three envelopes. Three envelopes which were numbered. Each envelope included a letter which detailed a different surprise date that he had planned & prepped for us.
Each of these envelopes, he said I was only allowed to open on the day of the date, to keep the element of surprise!
It was ridiculously cute. And kind of clever too – when you think about it – as it bagged Adam, not just one date, but a guarantee of at least three.
I mean, how could you say no to that?!
We did romantic picnics, adrenaline activities, day trips, the lot. Right from the get-go, we were making precious memories that I still treasure now.
And when it came to making it official…
Well, again, Adam certainly didn’t let me down!
We went to a concert and he asked me out with an infinity bracelet…
I know, my heart melts a little, just writing about it now.
Not only was it the most amazing night, but the meaning behind the bracelet of that being “forever” and him choosing to ask me out there – made it so perfectly special.
Now… strictly speaking… Adam actually asked me AFTER the concert, whilst we were in the car, before we drove home!
This means he snuck the bracelet in… past security… without me knowing… carried it all the way around with him… only to then get it out once BACK in the car… 😅
He said this was because I was singing my heart out, all the way through the concert, so he didn’t really get chance… Which was true! I was really going for it! Although I kind of think he lost his nerve a little too 😉
But – that’s real life. That’s just one of the things that makes our love story so real and so true.
See, the perfect plans don’t always go exactly to plan, but things like that only make it more endearing, and memorable!
We have matching infinity tattoos now…
This story doesn’t stop there actually, whilst I’m on the topic of it…
Admittedly, I’m not great with jewellery. I ended up getting the bracelet caught and it snapped a couple of years on. (Yes, I know, I was gutted about this too!)
He then got me a replacement, and I broke that one too. (Oops.)
So after we got engaged, we got matching infinity tattoos on our wrist. (See, I TOLD you we are soulmates right?!) Now we both have the constant reminder of our eternal love!
I guess the lasting message I want to leave you all with is…
I met Adam at a time in my life when I wasn’t even really looking for love, yet I found the strongest, purest, deepest love I have ever felt before, with the man who I can confidently say, really is my soulmate.
In fact, I met him at the time JUST before I was all set to move to London… He came into my life and threw my whole world upside down, but I honestly couldn’t be more thankful.
Adam was different, right from the very start. Our relationship was different. And I love him with all of my heart.
Was it 100% smooth sailing every step of the way?
Well, of course not. I still had my internal battles and past trauma to work through and heal from. That certainly tried to get in the way, more times than one!
But with Adam – there was nothing we wouldn’t get through. Everything always felt so easy, so natural, and the more time we spent together, the more I KNEW that he was “the one.”
So, that’s how I met my soulmate…
Found this story sweet? Feel free to drop a comment below.
Like I said, it’s for me to look back on and remember, and our children to look at in years to come (and either smile or CRINGE about – depending on if they’re more like their Dad or their Mum 😉)
But if you are single, and you are searching for your soulmate – I hope this gives you hope. And if you’ve found love and are with the partner you’d once have only dreamed of – go and give them a hug!
It’s easy to forget about these magical moments. To let life sweep you away. But love is one of the biggest blessings. And something that we should remind ourselves of and feel thankful for, every single day.
This is how I met my soulmate…
Be sure to stay tuned for Part 2: Our Engagement Story. I also need to do a serious backlog and share the moment we got our baby boy (spoiler: he’s a Maine Coon cat!)
But that’s all for this one. 🫶
Love,
Ell_xx
