Want to know how to make your boyfriend happy over text? The top 10 rules and “essentials”? Then you’re in the right place, as in this post, we’re going to break it all down.
How Do You Make Your Boyfriend Happy Over Text?
So when it comes to how to make your boyfriend happy over text, it’s all about doing more of the RIGHT things and less of the WRONG things.
It’s quite simple really, and ultimately comes down to:
“What would I want? How would I want to be treated?”
See, there’s not one magic formula – some simple text messages you can send your boyfriend and – just like that – he’s happy!
No. It’s more about your behaviour, and the consistency of your behaviour over text.
So let’s get stick straight into this shall we? For the REAL rules you need to follow when it comes to how to make your boyfriend happy over text.
How To Make Your Boyfriend Happy Over Text
Without further ado then, here’s how to make your boyfriend happy over text – the things you need to do and not to, to make texting you, a pleasurable experience! In no particular order…
1) Tell / Show Him You’re Thinking About Him
Is he having a bad day? Does he have some important things coming up / going on? Or maybe you know he’s doing a job he doesn’t really enjoy, but is getting on with it anyway?
Whatever it may be – use your texts to both tell and show your boyfriend, you’re there for him and are thinking about him, and are his rock… You’ve got his back.
You don’t have to make a big deal of things. That could be embarrassing for him…
But you can say small things that will mean a lot, that acknowledge whatever’s going on in his world and recognise that you get (as much as you can), how he feels.
2) Ask Him Different Questions
On a similar note, you can use questions not only to pay an interest in your boyfriend, but to also direct conversations in fun, different and interesting ways! So:
- Ask him questions about things that he enjoys / things that you know he’d like talking about.
- Ask his opinions on things… Showing him that you value what he says.
- Ask him funny questions, interesting questions, cute questions or start a friendly debate! You may also like to go for some quick-fire “this or that” questions (which are always rather fitting!) or “most likely to” couples questions – turning it into a bit of a game!
Make it interesting, effortless and enjoyable to speak to you – so that he looks forward to your messages and finds them entertaining instead of feeling like texting back is a bit of a chore!
3) Don’t Be Too Demanding
Now, they say: “you get out, what you put in” and effort is essential when it comes to how to keep your boyfriend happy over text. But – at the same time – you don’t want to text TOO much, or be too full-on or demanding.
It’s all about balance…
Try to text enough to stay connected when you’re apart, but not so much that you aren’t giving your boyfriend any time or space to do his own thing and actually miss you!
Don’t pester him, or be too demanding in terms of how fast or how often you expect him to reply.
Yes, you’ll have your standards (which should be fair and reasonable) but he also has his own life too… and so do you! So he shouldn’t feel any pressure or expectations from you when it comes to texting. On a similar note…
4) Don’t Give Him Unnecessary “Attitude!”
Let me ask you a few questions now, to better establish what I mean by this one:
- Do you get “funny” if he doesn’t text back fast enough, or doesn’t say the things you want
- Do you take things out on him, if you’re having a bad day, and he’s not quite texting “up to standards”?
- Will you stop sending kisses in your text to purposely indicate you’re not happy?
- Or start giving unnecessary remarks? Or saying mean comments?
Because all of these things will only push him away and make him SIGH when he looks at his phone, not SMILE.
Now I’m not saying that perhaps sometimes these things may be understandable, but ask yourself:
- Is it needed?
- Is acting like this going to be of any benefit?
- Will it help or change the situation for the better?
- Is this actually good for our relationship?
- In the big scheme of things, is this a big deal, worth making a big fuss about? (After all, being able to let things go in a relationship is key to survival too!)
Remember why you’re with your boyfriend, remember why you love him and remember what your relationship goals and vision is.
Because in most cases – this kind of behaviour is just a bad relationship habit, that simply needs to be recognised and removed.
Understanding and improving your communication in a relationship is one of the core fundamentals of how to make your boyfriend happy as a whole.
So cut out the bad habits like this, as it’s a great starting point, and it should – in theory – be able for you to better control how you act / behave when you’re not together, in the heat of a moment. On a similar note…
5) Save The “Serious Stuff” To In Person
If there are things you don’t like, or conversations you need to have, or tensions building (which is what’s making you a little snappy over text), then save these talks to in person.
I mean, think about it – who wants to send essays of text messages back and forth, to try to talk through things? And isn’t it far better and more effective, speaking face to face?
So if you have a problem, try not to act impulsively and bring it up over text. Instead, wait until you can speak it through in person, or pick up the phone and speak to your boyfriend on there.
How To Make Your Boyfriend Happy Over Text
We’re storming through this guide on how to make your boyfriend happy over text, now. So, what else have we got? Well…
6) Use Different Media To Stay Connected
When texting your boyfriend, remember – your text messages don’t have to be JUST text. Send different things like – voice notes, pictures and videos, to mix it up.
These are the sort of things you wouldn’t send to anyone, so it also helps you to feel closer to your partner. For instance:
- Stuck in bed, feeling poorly? Send a snuggled up selfie to melt his heart!
- Saw something epic on your way to work? Snap a picture and send it to your man!
- Something funny happen in your day? Record a voice note as it’s easier to explain!
- Got a pet together? Send a video to show you’re BOTH missing him!
Doing small things like this, keeps your connection strong, which in turn, helps to keep your boyfriend happy, even when you’re apart.
7) Make Him Laugh!
Laughter is the way to anyone’s heart, which is why this one just HAD to be mentioned when it comes to how to make your boyfriend happy over text!
A laugh, a smile, a quirky little story that makes you chuckle inside – these all play into making your boyfriend feel good, and making his day that little bit better.
So keep conversations light, fun and funny. Be yourself, and know your man.
Memes his thing? Funny selfies make him smile?
Whatever it is – do more of what you know he likes, and bring more laughter AND love into your relationship, even when you’re not side by side.
8) Pay Him Complements
FUN FACT: Did you know, men actually like complements more than women?!
Uh huh. Research shows this to be true. Men like to be lifted up, and feel the love, which is why dropping little complements into texts is a great way to make your boyfriend happy!
Complementing over text is also easier to do (and be received.) After all, there’s less potential embarrassment and more ways to drop them in.
So when your boyfriend does something good, cool or impressive – tell him! Complement the big things and the small things, but make them sincere.
It’s a simple thing that makes a big difference! Less nagging, more complements. Less negativity, more positivity! That’s what it’s all about!
9) Use Emojis
So we mentioned mixing up your media – sending more photos, videos or voice notes. But another nice, simple thing you can do – is also use emojis on text.
See emojis are helpful little things, actually working – in many ways – to make your boyfriend happy over text. Why?! Well:
They get your tone across better in a text, leaving less space for misinterpretations.
You want to make sure you’re coming across in the right way, and emojis can enable you to do this, softening messages or making them more jokey, to better communicate how you’re trying to say different things.
You can also use emojis to show someone you like or love them. And of course, plenty of guys use emojis to flirt.
This leads me onto my 10th final top tip for how to make your boyfriend happy over text…
10) Flirt With Him!
Want to make your boyfriend happy over text? Then flirt with him. Keep that chemistry alive! Keep it fun and exciting! It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together…
Flirting over text not only makes it better when you’re apart, but sets the tone for what it will be like when you’re then back together.
Little comments, flirty emojis, romantic little love puns, innuendoes, dares, maybe a few unexpected pictures (that don’t have to be TOO out there by the way!)
Tease him, mess around with him, keep it high energy and passionate! Because these are also all things to making a relationship long-lasting, and it’s easier than ever to do over text!
That’s All For This One
So there we have it! The 10 core foundations for how to keep your boyfriend happy over text.
I hope you found this valuable and – more importantly – stay committed to applying it!
Remember – relationships take work but they’re always worth the time, effort and attention you put into them in the end, as that’s what keeps them stronger, for longer!
So good luck. Wishing you all the best!
Love,
Ell_xx
