Want to connect on a deeper level in the bedroom? Open to exploring different intimacy exercises? Then here’s 4 (insanely good!) intimacy exercises to try next time you make love, that – truly will – BLOW. YOUR. MIND! 🤯
Before We Get Into It…
Now before we get into it, hold up, hold up. See – what are the chances of you reading this, thinking, “oh that sounds pretty good”, but not actually doing it? Very. Damn. High.
(I know, we get it. It happens all the time!)

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4 Intimacy Exercises To Try Next Time You Make Love
So, what have we got? What are these (insanely good!) intimacy exercises to try next time you make love?! Well, let’s get stuck in, shall we, my friends?! In no particular order, we recommend…
1) Mindful Touching
Mindful touching involves using touch as a way to communicate affection, desire, and presence.
Unlike traditional touching or caressing, mindful touch is about slowing down and truly paying attention to the sensations, both for the person touching and the one being touched.
This exercise encourages you both to explore each other’s body with curiosity, leaving aside any pressure to arouse or perform. (Which can be a game-changer in itself!)
It’s therefore one of the intimacy exercises to try next time you make love – BEFORE you get into it properly and fully. Mindful touching is an exercise to start with, and you’ll find the rest flows far more naturally and easily…

How To Do This
- Head up to the bedroom a little earlier.
- Either strip off, or stay in your clothes a little longer, and undress as and when you feel comfortable to do so.
- Take it in turns to gently touch each other – focusing on areas such as the arms, back, or shoulders.
- As the person touching, try to explore with a sense of curiosity—how does the texture of the skin feel? How does your partner respond to being touched in different places, and in different ways? What do they seem to like?
- Meanwhile, as you’re being touched – focus on their sensations, notice what feels pleasurable or comforting. Notice what you like and where.
- Switch roles when it feels natural to do so – with no set time allowance.
- Stay fully present whilst doing this. Focus solely on touching or being touched. Be there in the moment. Fully embrace it. Let go.
This exercise can help you build trust, intimacy, and a greater understanding of each other’s desires and boundaries. It’s also great for helping you to relax and feel comfortable with each other – without feeling any rush or pressure.

2) Eye Gazing
Let’s now move on to one of the simplest intimacy exercises to try next time you make love, which – of course – has to be eye gazing.
Eye gazing is the act of (you guessed it!) looking into each others eyes – in this case – whilst you’re making love.
When you look deeply into your partner’s eyes whilst making love, it can create a strong sense of vulnerability, but this in turn – helps you to build trust and a sense of closeness & connection that you’ll have never felt before.
It’s an incredibly intimate and meaningful bonding exercise, that makes you feel truly seen and connected with your partner to a far greater degree.

How To Do This
- When you next make love, focus on looking into each other’s eyes (no matter how uncomfortable it may feel at first.)
- Hold each other’s gaze. Perhaps ease the intensity by using gentle touch at the same time – rubbing their hand or stroking their cheek.
- Don’t worry if you awkwardly laugh a little at first. The more you do it, the more natural it will start to feel.
You’re likely to have done this at times before during making love, of course, but when you really focus on it and focus on FEELING the connection whilst doing it, it takes it to a whole new level.
Please Note: This doesn’t have to be done for the complete duration of love-making. Maybe start with it, end with it, or take a few moments during the middle to be fully present. Just see what naturally starts to flow.

3) Whispered Words
Another simple yet incredibly clever intimacy exercise for the bedroom is “Whispered Words”.
All you have to do is take it in turns to whisper how you want the other person to touch you…
Try to do it in a way which feels like dirty talk but which provides genuine tips / instructions, without it feeling like your partner doesn’t know how to “do it right.”
In most cases, this one will push your boundaries, but if you do it frequently enough – your confidence will start to grow and it will come more naturally.
You’ll learn how to better express what you like and want in the bedroom, that only then also in turn improves your sexual experiences together.
After all, poor communication in the bedroom can be one of the biggest reasons you’re not meeting your partner’s intimacy needs, so it’s a smart way to overcome this in a way that feels comfortable and casual.

4) Synchronised Breathing
Last but not least, we’ve got synchronised breathing, which sounds pretty “wacky” but bear with us here, if you’re new to this…
Synchronised breathing is a breathing technique that involved matching your partner’s breathing during sex.
It’s a common practice in tantric intimacy, an ancient Eastern practice that focuses on meditation, as it happens. But you don’t have to be into tantric in order to try it…
See, breathing exercises are often used in meditation, but they can also be an effective tool for enhancing intimacy. By synchronising your breath with your partner, you create a shared experience that fosters a sense of unity and relaxation…

How To Do This
- Start by lying down, facing each other. Agree on the rhythm you want to follow. (E.G. A common practice is to inhale deeply through your nose for a count of five, then exhale through your mouth for a count of five.)
- Begin by taking slow, deep breaths, then once you’re both breathing steadily and comfortably – gradually match your inhales and exhales with your partner. (NOTE: There’s actually 2 different ways to do this. Either inhale and exhale together or alternate your breaths, so that one partner exhales as the other inhales. Try both if you’re new to it, then decide which works best.)
- Focus on the sensation of breathing in unison, allowing it to bring a sense of harmony and closeness. Try to be aware of how it FEELS rather than the action of it itself. Feel your breath, body and heart, completely align.

That’s All For This One
So there we have it – that rounds up 4 simple yet incredibly effective intimacy exercises to try next time you make love.
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Wishing you all the very best.
Love,
Ell_xx
