Has your ex blocked you on social media? Blocked your number? Feel like screaming, “My ex blocked me on everything!”? Unsure what to do? We get write-ins about this a lot. And it hurts, you feel helpless. You want to find a way around it. But what should you do if you ex blocks you on everything? Well, let’s break it all down. Here’s how to deal with your ex blocking you.
Why Has My Ex Blocked Me?
Before we look at what to do if your ex blocks you, lets first establish WHY your ex has blocked you and what it means.
- Did you end on bad terms? Are they angry? Do you feel like there’s a bit of hatred there too?
- Was it a difficult breakup, and perhaps they’re just hurting? (Here, have a read of this – 10 signs they’re hurting more than you know.)
- Is this just their way of dealing with things? Blocking an ex after a breakup is actually a pretty common thing. It makes it easier for no contact and to help you both move on.
- Do you think they could perhaps be testing you? Trying to get a reaction? It is a possibility. (Here, click here for the signs your ex is testing you.) If this is the case, don’t rise to it. It’s not the right kind of test.
- Your ex could also have blocked you because they’ve moved on and met someone new. They’re therefore trying to protect you by you not having to see this – or trying to avoid the backlash! (Either way, here’s what to do if your ex moves on quickly.)
In most cases however, if your ex has blocked you on everything it’s because they don’t want to speak to you, and – particularly for socials – they don’t want to see what you post, or see your name popping up whenever they share something new.
At the end of the day, you’re no longer together. It can be hard enough to readjust as it is, without the constant reminder of them there…
My Ex Blocked Me On Everything…
So your ex blocked you on everything, but could it be a good thing? Well, let’s explore.
The Benefits Of Blocking Your Ex On Everything (Or Being Blocked):
1) Less Reminders
Out of sight, out of mind as they say. Less reminders mean it’s that TINY BIT easier to stop thinking about them quite as much and start to move on. It stops you thinking about them as much, and instead focusing on getting on with your own life.
2) Less Obsessing
After a breakup, it’s so easy to obsess over your ex.
Have they text? Will they text? What are they up to? Have they posted anything new? What’s going on with them now? And how does that mean that they feel?
You can end up checking your phone and their socials 10 times a day (in some cases, no exaggeration!)
It’s not healthy, nor does it help with your level of confidence after a breakup. In fact, the fixation (and then rejection through lack of care / interest) only knocks it down further!
Whereas if you’re blocked on everything, it creates a barrier and stops you from being able to know what’s going on, and therefore forces you to accept it and get on with your own life instead.
Although it may be frustrating initially, it’s actually only destroying a bad breakup habit which is a major win!
3) Less Temptation
So you may feel like screaming, “my ex blocked me on everything!”, but think about it – now they have, at least it takes away the option and therefore temptation to reach out to them.
They made a clear message by blocking you. A statement of what they want from here.
Whether they told you they were going to do it or not, they’ve gone now – but that only takes away one more “what if”, because the whole “having contact” option has been taken out of the mix.
It helps with closure, it forces you to start to accept it.
Is It Good That My Ex Blocked Me On Everything?
So maybe you were surprised when you realised, “Damn, my ex blocked me on everything!”, but can’t you shift the way you see it to consider that maybe your ex was doing you both a favour?
I Want My Ex To Unblock Me
Now I’m not naive enough to think that we can share the benefits of why it’s good that your ex blocked you on everything and you will automatically just be like, “oh okay then!”
Right now, you may still be in fight mode. You don’t WANT to be blocked. You don’t even really want to be broken up. So your mind may be trying to find ways around it.
But what’s the options?
- Message from someone else’s phone / social media to ask your ex to unblock you?
- Find a loophole with an old email address & email them on there?
- And I bet we’ve all seen when an ex transfers money into their ex’s account with a secret message as the reference like, “Please can we talk?”
But come on. Clear your mind. Take a deep breath. And realise: that’s not you. You are so much better than that. Don’t lose yourself and your dignity by stooping to those levels.
If You Try To Fight It…
I mean think about it, your ex blocked you on everything for a reason. Whether you like it or not, you have to accept it and respect it.
There must be a part of you that still cares about your ex so respect their decision, respect their wishes. Don’t make all of this harder than it already is. Not only for them, but for you, too.
The longer you fight it, the longer you prolong the pain. And remember – it’s a bit of a losing battle anyway. You can’t change the way a person feels or what they want.
Sp the sooner you accept it – the sooner you can get your head around it and start to let go.
What To Do If Your Ex Blocks You
So what do you do if your ex blocks you? Well:
1) Accept it.
Like we said. Don’t try to reach out or get them to unblock you. Just leave it. You begging, pestering or pleading will not change this, and even if it did – would it really make a difference?
See, as much as it may hurt to hear it, your ex doesn’t want to speak to you. They wouldn’t block you if they did. So even if you were unblocked, it would only create more torment and frustration!
2) Don’t try to find ways around it.
Don’t try to find other ways to “follow” them. Let’s be fair – there’s always ways. Asking friends to keep tabs on them, checking through their socials, having other accounts.
But again, leave it out. It’s not helpful and it’s certainly not you. Don’t lower yourself to that level. It will make you go crazy!
3) Stop clinging on to the past.
Last but not least, try not to cling onto the past. So you can’t see anything new that your ex shares anymore.
Sometimes, that leads you to go over old photos or old messages… but again, it does more harm than good. So decide to make this the turning point – decide to have this as your own fresh start.
Will My Ex Ever Unblock Me?
Will your ex ever unblock you? Well, most probably. In their own time. It could be weeks, it could be months, it could be years and – it very well could be not at all.
They may not even think about it. Or maybe they themselves, find the temptation to have a little look at your profile. It’s unlikely they’ll ever reach out however – unless they want to clear the air.
But this means, even if they do unblock you, you’re unlikely to realise. You shouldn’t realise anyway, because you shouldn’t still be checking!
So try not to think about this, and definitely don’t wait for it. In your mind, look at it like that’s it – they will never be coming back. Because they won’t, not in the way you want them to anyway.
“My Ex Blocked Me On Everything…”
So your ex blocked you on everything. It wasn’t your choice. Maybe it wasn’t what you wanted, or something you would do. But it’s happened now.
Give it some time, and – I promise you – it won’t seem like such a big deal. Give it more time, and – you very well may be surprised – you’ll actually be thankful for it.
Everything may be hurting right now, but it will get easier. Just hang on in there, okay? Take care.