How close are you with your partner? Are you asking the right questions? Or are there simple things you’re really missing? In this post, we’ll run through the 3 questions you don’t ask your partner enough (most probably, anyway!) – plus, why they’re such a game-changer.
See, checking in with your partner is one of the healthy relationship habits, you really should do daily. Whether that’s checking in on them about their day, or asking deeper, more meaningful questions. Both have a time and a place.
But what specific questions should you ask your partner more often? And why don’t couples tend to ask these questions enough? Well, life takes over, right? You’re busy, they’re busy, and it can be difficult to find the time to connect.
That’s why we recommend this (genius!) couples power hour hack. (Trust me, it’s a real game-changer!) Combine this with these 3 essential questions, and you’ll find the two of you feel closer than ever.
7 Questions You Don’t Ask Your Partner Enough
So – what are these all important questions that you need to ask more often? Well, we’ve rounded it up to the top 3 questions you don’t ask your partner enough. These include…
1) How are you feeling?
This is different to asking “how are you?” In most cases, we respond back on automatic, saying “I’m good!”
That’s why – instead – you want to ask, more specifically, “how are you feeling?”
You could ask them how they’re feeling in themself, or how they’re feeling after the day they’ve had, or how they’re feeling about a particular thing or situation.
The more specific you get, the easier they’ll find it to open up.
And remember – if you feel like they’re just answering on automatic, take their hand, hold them close, and ask again, “no babe, how are you REALLY feeling?”
It’s one of the simplest, yet most effective ways to strengthen your emotional intimacy on a daily basis (one of the all-important different types of intimacy your relationship really needs!)
This also ties into the 3 simple words your relationship really needs (and no, it’s not “I love you” this time!)
2) How can I help?
Next up, “how can I help?” Is one of the simple questions you don’t ask your partner enough, and no – you shouldn’t feel like you’re stuck on a customer service line!
At the end of the day, you and your partner are A TEAM. You should be working together, on the big things and the small.
It could be emotional support or physical support, but by simply getting into the habit of offering it, more naturally and easy, through both the good times in everyday life and the tougher times, it shows your partner that you are really there.
And hey – the chances are, they won’t even need a hand in many cases, but even by simply asking (with genuine love, openness and care), you’ll feel far closer and more connected.
This question is incredibly simple yet powerful, particularly if your partner’s love language is acts of service. It’s a great way to make your partner feel loved in a way that will mean the most to them.
“Need a hand cooking dinner? Want me to pick you up after that event? Shall I find us somewhere nice for our anniversary? How can I help, babe?”
See, you can still use your initiative and suggest small ways in which you can help in situations. It’s then just about getting into the habit of both naturally doing so for one another, in even more ways.
3) What are you grateful for?
Last but not least, we want to bring a little more gratitude into your relationship!
And hey, I get it, you probably didn’t expect this to be one of the questions you don’t ask your partner enough! But hear me out here, right?
See, you shouldn’t be asking your partner what they’re grateful for, in a random or questioning way.
Instead, we recommend asking your partner what they’re grateful for and making it part of a daily habit or routine. (It’s one of the different ways to build intimacy in a relationship, and one of our favourites as a matter of fact!)
See, multiple studies show the benefits of gratitude in a relationship, and you don’t have to just be grateful for your partner or the things that they’ve done.
Shared gratitude and appreciation for the big and small things in life, in general, can also help to make you feel happier, closer and more at peace.
So hey, why not try this?! –
Every morning or every night, share 3 things you’re grateful for, to your partner, and ask them the same question back.
Try to think of different things every time, and be willing to dig a little deeper, sharing your feelings, emotions and even a little vulnerability at times.
It’s a total game-changer question that will consistently keep you connected, that’s for sure!
That’s All For This One
So there we have it – that rounds up our top 3 questions you don’t ask your partner enough.
I hope you found this valuable.
See, not all questions have to be tough relationship questions. Some of the simplest questions can become invaluable relationship tools.
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All the best!
Love,
Ell_xx
