Wondering how your boyfriend feels? If you’re on the same page? If he see’s you as “THE ONE”? Then my friends, you’ve come to the right place. It’s time to put your mind at ease. Here’s the 10 key signs he sees himself marrying you.
How Soon Will He Know?
So before we look at the signs he sees himself marrying you, it’s first important to establish how it works in terms of timescale.
See, this is something that varies from person to person – depending not only on his character, but the stage of life he’s in.
- How old is he? And what is he looking for – both long term and short term?
- How big of a thing is marriage to him? Or having that secure dynamic?
- What does commitment mean to him? What are his values? And how do they align with yours?
- What does he want from a relationship? Where would this be heading?
- Where is he currently at? What is he ready for, both now and in the near future?
- Are there key stages he wants to work through with you, at a set pace? EG. Maybe you’re noticing the signs he secretly wants you pregnant, but you know you want to get married before having children.
These are all things worth considering. As is the degree of this. So for example:
If you’ve not been in a relationship for long, he may see himself marrying you.
Especially if he wouldn’t get into a relationship “just for the sake of it.” He would have to be a potential future there…
However, this will still differ from being in a long-term relationship and therefore being closer to taking things from, “I can see myself marrying this girl” to “I’m going to ask her to marry me soon.” You see?
The intentions at both stages are still the same. The desire just grows more and more with time (or should do in a healthy relationship anyway), and things will continue to progress to that marriage stage.
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How Do You Know If He Sees a Future With You?
All of these signs he sees himself marrying you, are also the same as the signs he see’s a future with you.
This may be important to recognise as not everyone who wants to spend their life with a person, actually necessarily feels the need to also marry them.
See, the rate of marriage is declining. Less people are getting married now than before. Probably due to costs increasing, and “success rate” decreasing.
I mean, “Almost 50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation.” Scary, huh?
So if he isn’t necessarily in a hurry to “pop the question” that doesn’t mean he doesn’t see a future with you. It just may mean that he’s more skeptical of marriage as a whole, or doesn’t think you need that in your life.
You’ll know him better than anyone however, so don’t be shy to have the conversations about marriage as a whole and his thoughts on it. This is one of the best ways to find out if he sees himself marrying you.
How Does a Guy Know He Wants To Marry You?
Ultimately a guy knows he wants to marry you if:
- He sees a future with you.
- He sees marriage in his future.
- The following signs all seem to ring true…
Uh huh, you can actually start to piece it altogether.
Signs He Sees Himself Marrying You
So let’s get stuck in with the key signs he sees himself marrying you. What have we got? Well…
1) You’ve Spoken About Marriage
If marriage is important, to not just you, but also him – the chances are, you’re going to have already spoken about it. Even if it’s early days!
This is usually a topic that comes up. Not in necessarily speaking about the two of you getting married (it could be far too soon for that!) but your desires to get married in general.
It can just be a light conversation, but generally if he sees himself marrying you one day, he’ll want to make sure you’re on the same page. This ties in closely with my next point…
2a) You Often Speak About The Future
Similarly to marriage talks, if he sees himself marrying you, you’re also likely to often talk about the future.
This comes naturally, it just flows. You’ll talk, you’ll daydream, you’ll make plans even.
Anything from what you want to do six months from now, to the kind of life you want to build and live together.
You see this going somewhere, you’re excited for it to and you’re already taking the next steps. This is an important note…
2b) You’re Already Progressing Towards That Future
If he see’s himself marrying you, and is serious about it, you’ll find that the relationship is already naturally progressing. There’s steps forward.
You’re working your way through the relationship milestones, and so unsurprisingly – you’re itching closer and closer to reaching the proposal and marriage stage.
3) The Relationship is Healthy
Now it’s one thing wanting to marry someone, and spend a life with them – but another, realistically being able to do so.
And none of that is possible without a healthy relationship…
Healthy relationships involve honesty, trust, respect, strong and open communication.
It takes effort and compromise, and working with the other person to understand each other, also ensuring there’s the right balance.
But it’s worth it. Because when you have all of this, you can have anything you want together.
On the flip side, without a healthy relationship, your boyfriend can’t fully see himself marrying you because he first needs to see and know how certain things would change.
So this is quite a fundamental key within all of this!
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4) You’re Involved In Decision Making
So let’s be fair, men have egos. We all do. But men tend to display theirs more.
As a result of this, there can often come a desire to “be in charge.” When a man sees himself marrying you however, he tends to let this go a little.
Yes, he’ll still keep his character and some men will be more reluctant than others. But naturally, he will involve you more, especially in the big things, because he sees you both as a team.
He’ll consult with you when making any big plans or decisions. He’ll want to know what you think and how you feel, as he values you, cares about you, and you are truly important to him.
He’ll also have strong, open communication about smaller plans too. Just out of common courtesy.
It’s less about him, and more about the two of you, as a “we” or “us.”
- What shall “we” do about this?
- How would you feel about that?
- Are you happy with “us” doing this?
- Is is okay if “I” do that?
It’s not about permission, but about involvement. And there’s that mutual respect and open communication there. This leads me onto my next point…
5) He’s Open and Honest With You
Another key sign he sees himself marrying you, is if he’s open and honest – even about the things he’d perhaps rather not be. The best example with this, is finances.
These are things that you can’t really easily keep hidden in a marriage. He knows this. He wants it to head there. And so he’s fully transparent with things now.
This means telling you if funds are tight, or he’s got into any trouble. Or being open about his financial situation – both if it’s good or bad.
He’ll be willing to share his assets, savings and accounts with you, so that you know where he’s at. Because it won’t always just be his, but the both of yours. Leading on from this…
6, He Fully Supports You
Okay so this is one of the most obvious signs he sees himself marrying you now, and that’s if he fully supports you – in more ways than one.
Not because he has to, but because he wants to…
So let’s say you live together, you want to change your career, but that means taking a step back from earning as much, to enable you to study more.
In this situation, if he can, he’ll support the both of you.
And it’s not about you taking advantage. It’s about you being a team and him knowing, you’re his partner – his life-long partner, so what’s his is yours and vice versa anyway (to a degree).
This is the difference between not just a boyfriend, or even a long-term boyfriend, but a boyfriend who sees himself marrying you. It’s 100% commitment. It’s this sort of attitude, like…
“I know this is it. I don’t even need to think about this decision. I’ll do everything I can to help you, because we are a team and I want you to be happy.”
7) He Can Fully Be Himself Around You
What else do you need to be marriage material? Well, having a relationship where you can both be 100% yourselves – and love each other for who you are, flaws and all.
One of the signs he sees himself marrying you is therefore if he’s happy, content. He can show his silly side, he can mess around with you, he’s totally comfortable with you.
He can also show his serious side too – sharing personal things with you, confiding in you, opening up to you. And you can do the same vice versa.
As part of this, the relationship dynamics also need to be right where you both feel like you can say what you want and do what you want (to a degree) – without treading on eggshells or dreading the “consequences.”
You bring out the best in each other, you’re both living your own lives the way you want to – but they align almost seamlessly.
When this happens you know you work, the relationship works, and the options for your future are endless!
8) The Relationship Feels Secure
Next up then, if he sees himself marrying you, then the two of you are going to be in a pretty comfortable position.
He feels secure, and you feel secure in the relationship too. You both do.
In some ways, you probably already FEEL like an old married couple! You know he’s all about you, you know you’re all about him, and neither one of you needs to worry.
All you need on top of this then, is (going back to what we said at the start), the knowledge that marriage is part of the picture for the two of you, and will one day come.
If you have that knowledge on top of a secure, happy, comfortable relationship – then really it’s no longer really about “if” it will happen, but instead, “when.”
So simply take a step back and have confidence in that.
9) He Puts In The Effort Romantically
Now this is a big one. Relationships can, undeniably, get comfortable the more secure they get. But ultimately, you should still remain both best friends AND lovers.
That romantic spark has to keep burning with relative intensity – otherwise things are likely to fizzle out as opposed to continue to flame into marriage and more.
So another key sign he sees himself marrying you, is if he keeps putting the effort in romantically.
He still wants to woo you, he still wants to impress you, he still does things to keep you happy – in fact he goes out of his way to keep you happy.
He doesn’t become too complacent, because he knows where he wants this to head and he knows that, actually, relationships still take work!
10) He Stays Through Thick & Thin
Last but not least then, you know he’s all in on this relationship if he stays with you through thick and thin – both the good times and the bad.
All relationships will have little hiccups at one point or another, naturally. You’ll also both be working on different things – both in the relationship and as individuals – as you continue to grow.
But that’s the thing – he keeps working and keeps trying. Because he knows it’s still right between the two of you, and will always be worth it in the end.
He’s mature, he’s committed, and he definitely sees himself marrying you if – on top of many of the above signs – he also sticks by the side when you need him the most.
How Do You Know If He Wants To Marry You?
So there you have it – 10 key signs he sees himself marrying you.
This is different to him liking you, loving you, or even seeing you as the one. This is about him valuing marriage and wanting you to be his future wife. (How special is that!)
I hope this article has helped to make things clearer for you. But if you’re still unsure (and it’s not been years rather than months), don’t be afraid of asking your partner to see where you stand.
It’s vitally important that you’re both on the same page, for the sake of the both of you.
So open up the conversation! Good luck. Keep giving this your all.
All the best.
Love,
Ell_xx
