Being single isn’t a tragedy, it’s an opportunity. It’s a chance to recreate yourself, to put yourself first, to prioritise your goals, to do all the things you really want to do! To get you excited about this, I want to challenge you to create your very own singles bucket list.
What to include? Well I don’t want you to be short of ideas, so I’ve created a whole load for you! Here’s 100 things to do when you’re single, to get that inspiration flowing…
How To Create Your Singles Bucket List
To create your singles bucket list, you want to have a good strong mix of different things, that look at different areas of your life and benefit you in different ways.
See, there’s 7 different areas for self improvement. And ideally you want a mix of things that will…
1) Help You Grow
Ultimately in yourself, as a person. The more you push yourself, the more you grow.
So we want a rounded mission of personal development and self improvement as part of our singles bucket list.
2) Get To Know Yourself Better
You also want to include things that will help you get to know yourself better – discover who you really are and who you want to be.
3) Get You Experiencing
Think about different dating experiences, travel experiences, life experiences.
Think about the things that are FUN, exciting, will help you create those precious memories and fully make the most of your freedom!
4) Help You Learn
Every single thing we do, will get us learning more… about ourselves, about our lives, about our wants, our needs.
Identify where you have a lack of clarity, or look at how you can challenge what you thought before, to really expand your mind.
With an attitude of learning, you can also take a positive from almost any experience (even the negative) so you should use this time to shift your outlook too.
5) Pushes You Out Your Comfort Zone
The more you do, the more you learn and the more you grow. So don’t be afraid to add the things that SCARE you, onto your singles bucket list.
Even if you don’t currently feel like you could do them (or want to do them), as time goes on, you’ll see that soon changes!
Your Singles Bucket List
Your singles bucket list should also combine things:
1) On Your Own
This will really build you up as a person and get you pushing out of your comfort zone, growing your independence and showing you what you’re really capable of.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – we all need time by ourselves, to live just for ourselves. So embrace it.
Push through when you start to feel lonely and uncomfortable, because once you come out the other side, you’ll realise just how strong and powerful you really are as an individual.
2) With Others
On the flip-side, just because you’re single, doesn’t mean you have to do everything by yourself. You can still experience things with other people, and you’ll realise that it’s actually just as good!
Whether it’s with friends, family, someone you’re dating even… you don’t have to have a serious romantic partner to make special memories with other people.
So we want to include a mix of experiences with others on our singles bucket list to help you to see that.
The most important part however?
Is that you create a Singles Bucket List that excites you!
Include things you’ve always wanted to do, things you’ve never thought of doing before, anything and everything – quite simply – because you can.
This is a fundamental element for how to become happily single, because it’s pushing you to make the most of your single-life status and all the freedom that comes with it!
100 Things To Do When You’re Single
So let’s get stuck into it. Here’s 100 things to do when you’re single.
Remember, this is just the starting point. When creating your singles bucket list, add on things that both scare and excite you – but make them personal to you.
Really look at the areas you want to develop in and the things that you’re passionate about.
Then once you’re happy with your list – pin it up on the wall to keep it on your radar and continuously working through it!
EMBRACING YOUR FREEDOM:
- Go to the cinema and watch a movie you really fancy, on your own. BONUS: treat yourself to some popcorn and a drink whilst you’re there too!
- Go for a meal by yourself… in a restaurant… completely alone… and still enjoy it!
- Sit at a bar by yourself and treat yourself to a cocktail. Don’t get self-conscious. Relax. Enjoy.
- Go on a solo trip, a staycation in your home country.
- Travel abroad by yourself. (It’s more empowering than scary, trust me! Take those first steps. Grab those cute travel outfits and get yourself away!)
- Learn to navigate a map through walking, or hiking – you don’t have to go alone, you just have to be able to take the lead with whoever you’re with.
- Spend a month living in another country.
Psst: There’s plenty of ways to embrace your freedom (and have the confidence to do so.) Have a read of some of the best books for single women, to get some more ideas!
PREPARING FOR DATING:
- Re-download that dating app you gave up on, or install a new one and give it a good go!
- Spend an hour sprucing up your dating profile – really take the time to make it the best that it can be.
- Write down what you’re looking for in a partner, including deal-breakers, desirables, the things that are most important to you and why.
- Establish if you’re definitely ready to do this, by asking yourself the key questions before dating!
UPPING YOUR DATING:
- Go on at least one date a week, for 1-2 months. OR, one date a day, for a week.
- Ask someone you really fancy, out on a date… Take control, don’t wait for them to suggest it! Read these dating books for women to gain the confidence to do this, and then – you’ll truly become UNSTOPPABLE!
- Go on a date within 48 hours of matching with someone – be spontaneous!
- Reconnect with someone you’ve always fancied and ask if they’d like to meet up.
- Go on a double date, blind date or group date (see what your friends can come up with!)
- Write your number on a napkin and give it to a stranger you fancy. Or, if you’re feeling brave – use this guide for how to start a conversation with a stranger, to actually start up a conversation with them!
- Go on a date with someone who’s really NOT your type looks wise, but you connect with in conversation.
- Give a chat up line to someone you don’t know, in person.
- Try 10 different funny opening lines on a dating app (and don’t worry about what you get back!)
- Do some different virtual dates / video dates, without feeling self-conscious.
- Try speed-dating, or virtual speed dating, until you find someone who is actually a cool, potential match.
TRYING NEW THINGS:
- Try a new activity you’ve never done before. (Hey, maybe it will turn into a positive, fun, new hobby of yours!)
- Travel somewhere new – completely on your own.
- Try a new sport: maybe surfing, water-skiing, table tennis even!
- Learn a new skill and go from “beginner” to “mastered!”
- Learn the basics of a new language. (Perhaps choose a place you plan to visit!)
- Learn mindfulness or meditation. (Which is incredibly powerful when it comes to how to become emotionally stable by the way!)
- Become a better cook – mastering some badass new recipes!
- Every time you go to a restaurant, vouch to try something new, something different, something you’d never have usually gone for before. Be adventurous!
- Have a go at camping… don’t worry about the creepies. It will be good for you (believe it or not!)
- Find a new hobby – something that fills your time, but which you really enjoy.
- Start a blog! Write about things you’re passionate about, or which interest you.
SETTING NEW GOALS:
- Set a new goal for your career, and work hard to achieve it.
- If you don’t enjoy what you do – go for a career change. Take a “risk” if you have to. It’s better to try and see than to not try at all and regret.
- Start a side hustle or focus on building a passive income stream.
- Set a saving goal for the year and commit to hitting your monthly targets (no matter what it takes!)
- Buy your first property… And yes, you can do this on your own!
- Go back and study, getting a new qualification in an area that will be of benefit.
- Set some new personal development goals for learning and growing.
- Think of a fundraising challenge then set a goal for how much you want to raise.
FORMING NEW HABITS:
- Create a new morning routine. One which sets you up for the day!
- Do a little more self-care. Here, try this Self-Care Challenge to get you into the habit!
- Start reading 10 minutes of a personal development book, every day.
- Get into journaling and make that a regular thing. It’s great for processing your thoughts and feelings and tracking your progress. You can also then look back on it. Remember, “a life worth living, is worth recording!”
- Identify a BAD habit – not only destroying it, but replacing it with something better.
- Learn to master your mind and emotions, finding better ways to respond to difficult situations.
- Get your finances in order. Create new habits, which makes financial management far easier.
TAKING ON CHALLENGES:
- Spend 30 days focusing purely on personal development. Here, try this Self Improvement Challenge.
- Take on a mud run, an inflatable run, a colour run – anything fun like that, just for charity.
- Push yourself fitness wise, by training for and completing a half marathon, marathon or triathlete.
- Set yourself a step challenge. (For instance, I did 1 million steps in 1 month. Do something similar!)
- Take an IQ test, then spend time working on your intelligence.
- Go to a karaoke night and sing your heart out in front of strangers.
- Have a go at public speaking. You could even challenge yourself even further, with an open mic night or comedy night (eek!)
FEELING GOOD IN YOURSELF:
- Work on your confidence. Do one thing every week which will push you out of your comfort zone and really make you grow. Also swat up on it, read more about it, grab a confidence coach, take a course. But make how you feel about yourself – a real priority.
- Learn to love yourself. Go one step further. Build yourself up even more.
- Find other ways to feel connected, to feel intimacy, gee to even “satisfy your needs”, without the requirement for a partner.
- Destroy self-doubt, insecurities or limiting beliefs.
- Work on your inner dialogue so that it can no longer knock you down.
- Get a hair cut, colour, or maybe some new extensions. Work on creating an image that looks and feels like YOU!
- Go through your wardrobe and clear out any things you no longer wear or really like (give them to charity) then make a start on finding more of what you do like and need.
- Treat yourself to a manicure, pedicure, eyebrow shaping, whatever you like. But allow a little extra pampering – not for anyone else, but for yourself.
- Reach your body goals- whether that’s weight loss, weight gain, or stabilising your body weight – so there’ less ups and downs.
HEALTH & FITNESS
- Swat up on diet & nutrition, expanding your knowledge in that area, so that you’re fuelling your body with the right things.
- Learn to cook properly. (No more cheat meals – even if you are just cooking for one!)
- Set yourself a fitness goal – whether it’s for weight loss, toning, or a whole big transformation. Get the body you’ve always wanted. Click here for how to feel confident in your own skin.
- Do a little weight lifting. Build your strength – both physically and mentally. It will make you feel like an absolute BOSS!
- Try a new fitness class. Something you’ve never done before, or haven’t done for a long time. Find ways to keep fit, that you actually really enjoy.
- Learn to live alone. To be able to look after yourself, enjoy alone time, and really stand on your own two feet. WARNING: once you do this, you’ll become so independent, it will take someone even more special to change that!
- Take time to do more character development. Work on your “flaws” or “weaknesses” to become a stronger, happier and more rounded person. EG struggle to stand up for yourself? Work on expressing your emotions and being more assertive.
- Create a one, five and ten year plan, getting clear on who you are, what you want and where you’re going.
- Create a happiness plan, and map out the things you can do to become happier in day-to-day life.
- Reconnect with old friends. Or take time to catch up with existing friends more regularly. There’s plenty of places to hang out with friends and different things to do – so make the most of it and don’t be afraid to mix things up!
- Visit a friend or family member in another town, city or country.
- Take a road-trip with friends, or go on a big multi-country travel adventure.
- Reconnect with old relatives. Phone family members you haven’t spoken to in ages, or don’t speak to enough. Keep your widowed Grandma company (if anyone knows “alone” now, she does!)
- Volunteer somewhere that helps people. A retirement home, a homeless shelter, a nursery even. Surround yourself with PEOPLE and focus on spreading kindness and love.
- Help someone else through a difficult time – whether it’s a friend, family member, or even a stranger in a Facebook group. There’s heaps about!
- Make some new friends. Get social. Really mix.
- Get a part-time weekend job at a lively bar and have fun with it.
- Host a girls night, for some quality girls time. It will be good for all of you!
- Go on a mates-date, whether that’s with a girl or a guy, it doesn’t even matter!
- Make out with a stranger! Or if that’s a little too bold, start by winking at a stranger!
- Photobomb a group of hot guys taking a selfie.
- Dance to a street musicians music with friends!
- Sort through all of your old photos, print them out and create collages or memory books.
- Be a tourist for the day in your hometown. Take a camera, snap some photos and really see the beauty in where you live.
- Have a family photoshoot, a friends photoshoot or even a personal photoshoot. Capture yourself in this time NOW!
- Go all out for a fancy dress party – we’re talking dorky, not sexy. Have a laugh with it, without any care.
- Buy last minute tickets to an event and – whether you have someone to go with or not – go anyway. Say YES to life! And do everything you can to fully enjoy it.
JUST FOR FUN:
- Buy an outfit that makes you feel HOT, and hold your head up high when you go out and wear it!
- Treat yourself to something expensive, that you’ve wanted for a while, but totally deserve!
- Treat someone you love to something they’ve always wanted. Perhaps a holiday for your parents, or even a cute gift (when it’s not their birthday.) You’re not splashing the cash on a significant other right now, so why on earth not?!
- Have a BINGE night – order your favourite takeaway (just for you!), gee, maybe even grab dessert too. Then indulge, whilst working your way through your favourite tv series… in your pjs, even at 5 o’clock. There’s no judgements!
- Host a party at your own, without any specific need or reason!
- Party like a college student again, let your hair down, go crazy! Dance like no-ones watching… and if they are, who even cares?!
- Go skinny dipping… or something crazy like that, that you never thought you’d have the nerve to do before. In fact, have a go at one of these crazy date ideas – with friends or on your own! BE WILD!
- Go to a park and swing on a swing. Get back to your youth again. Remind yourself what it feels like to be young and carefree!
- Get a hotel room, just for yourself. Lounge around in your robe, watch crappy tv and order in room service. Feel like the QUEEN that you are!
So there we have it – 100 things to do when you’re single to FILL your singles bucket list. Feeling inspired?! I hope so.
Why You Should Create a Singles Bucket List
Your single years really can be some of your best – especially when you fully embrace them.
See, it’s about learning to be happy in your own company, fully utilising all the opportunities it gives you and doing as much as you possibly can, whilst you can, before the added ties and commitments.
By creating a singles bucket list, it will help you to do exactly that – to fully make the most of – and actually learn to love – single life.
Of course, there’s nothing stopping you from doing all of these things in a relationship (and I totally encourage that. It’s great to keep your own life, and continuously work on yourself, even when you’ve found your other half.
But the reason we’re focusing on it now, to get you into healthy habits.
It should also show you that life can be pretty great, even on your own. And by doing a combination of all of these things, you’ll see that actually – you’re not really on your own anyway!
Have Fun Creating
So have fun creating!
Once you’ve written out your list (or at the very least, made a start on it), don’t just then sit on it… Do one thing STRAIGHT AWAY to work towards one on the “challenges!”.
Really hit the ground running with it.
Get ADDICTED to doing as much as you possibly can. Because once you do that, I can assure you, you will start to notice significant positive changes in both yourself and your life.