Why You Need a Singles Personal Development Plan

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Become the best, happiest, healthiest version of YOU! Here’s why you need a singles personal development plan, plus – how to create one.

See, whether you’ve recently gotten out of a relationship, or have been single for a while now; whether you’re looking for love or not – you need a singles personal development plan.

Here – allow us to explain why, plus how to craft one that will – literally – change your life…

What Is a Singles Personal Development Plan?

A singles personal development plan is – of course – a personal development plan for single men or women, that focuses on the areas you want to improve on, in all areas of your life.

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Why They’re Proving To Be So Popular…

See, there’s no better time to work on yourself when you’re single.

After all, you’re completely “free” and typically tend to have at least a LITTLE more time, without the extra commitment of a relationship and an another person to think about.

It’s the perfect time to prioritise YOU, and become the best, happiest version of you.

Because sure, you’ll still be busy… Maybe you purposely make yourself busy even.

You may also have a family of your own, or busy work commitments which is one of the reasons why you’re still single. 🤔 BUT – you are still in control.

So this is all about making a decision to make this your time, and finding the time (no matter how small, each day) to work on yourself and the key areas of your life and put yourself in the best possible position.

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What Things Can You Include In Your Plan?

You can include anything in your Singles Personal Development Plan, but typically you want to look at where you’re at now, and where you’d ideally want to be – then, how to fill in the gap.

Being single by choice is of course a thing, and for some – it’s actually a conscious life-long decision. For most however, the end goal is not to stay single FOREVER.

Most Singles Personal Development Plan’s therefore have – at least an element of – working on themselves to become the person they want and need to be, to attract the love they truly deserve. But hey – don’t do everything for someone else. Do it primarily for yourself, with the added-benefit of it leading to the things you want in your love life.

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Common Areas of a Singles Personal Development Plan

To help you start to get your own ideas flowing, some common areas of development, often included in a singles personal development plan, include…

1) Emotional Development

Learning how to better understand and manage your emotions, instead of repressing them or letting them take over you.

This not only benefits your emotional health and day-to-day wellbeing, but it also sets you up to cultivate stronger, healthier relationships.

2) Mental Development

Similarly to working on managing your emotions, many singles personal development plans home in on how to develop a healthy state of mind.

This means learning how to be happily single, develop patience, resilience, better deal with rejection, overcome challenges, work through insecurities, destroy negative self talk…

This is another important part of personal growth, that supports you in both the short and long term.

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3) Physical Development

Learning how to take care of your body is just as important as looking after your mind and emotions.

It also puts you in the right state of mind, and can be an incredibly positive, healthy outlet to learn to utilise.

4) Spiritual Development

Spiritual growth can help you explore your purpose, values, and self-improvement goals. 

It can also help you to heal, work through any deep-rooted issues (like fear of abandonment for example) and develop your self-confidence. Speaking of which…

5) Character Development

Character development is often one of the biggest parts of a singles personal development plan.

It can include things like: how to improve your confidence, how to better express how you feel, how to be more spontaneous, how to stop being so controlling, how to let go of worries…

The list for this one is pretty endless, but it’s based solely around:

  • Who do you want to be?
  • In what ways are you not living authentically to the REAL you, deep inside?
  • What things would you like to change about yourself? And which would make you feel more like yourself?
  • What things do you need to let go of or overcome?
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6) Skills

You then might like to look at skills to develop in your singles personal development plan.

These may be specific skills needed for the healthiest, happiest future relationship. Like learning how to better communicate for example.

Or, they may be general skills – skills you’d like to develop purely out of interest, in this time now!

How To Create Your Own Singles Personal Development Plan

The key areas of development will be pulled into your singles personal development plan, tied in with key action task ideas, goals and timelines / deadlines.

The best way to create your own singles personal development plan is as followed:

Step 1) Brainstorm

Grab a piece of paper and start looking at the different areas of yourself, your life, and the areas you want to develop in, using the above categories to start you off.

Jot down as many things as you can think of… But don’t get overwhelmed by this, get excited!

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Step 2) Organise

Once you have your brainstorm of ideas – review it.

Ask yourself:

  • What is most urgent here?
  • What things – if I focused on them – would create the greatest, most positive impact?
  • In some cases, consider – what can I NOT afford to delay?

Try to home in on 3-5 goals initially. Then…

Step 3) Get a Little Clearer

You can’t get where you want to be, if you’re not clear on where exactly you want to be.

So, with your chosen 3-5 goals, develop them further. Write out a clear, end vision for each one.

Step 4) Turn It Into SMART Goals

You’ve probably heard of SMART targets / goals a million times before, but as a reminder, these are:

  • Specific: The goal is clearly defined so that anyone can understand what needs to be done. 
  • Measurable: The goal can be quantified, or at least an indicator of progress can be suggested.
  • Achievable: The goal is attainable with the available resources.
  • Relevant: The goal is worthwhile, matches other efforts, and is applicable in the current environment.
  • Time-bound: The goal has a timeline for expected results.
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Step 5) Brainstorm Action Tasks & Schedule Them In!

The final step to creating your singles personal development plan, is to brainstorm a list of different things you can do and try, to reach your end goal.

This is the fun part, as you don’t need to have all the answers, you just need to think of different things that MIGHT help. Then work your way through them to see what exactly works…

Create a tick-list for these action tasks and work through them, one by one.

To get you better taking the action you need, you may also like to schedule some of these action tasks in your calendar – blocking out specific time to do it.

It’s also helpful to develop habits around them, to better break them down.

For example, let’s say you want to swat up on how to increase your confidence – commit to reading 10 pages of a book a day, or listening to 10 minutes of an audiobook.

That way you’re making small steps forward, daily. 💪

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BONUS – Remember Your Why

Through all of this, it will be important to stay focused and motivated, so always remember your strong reasons “why” you need to work on something.

Use the power of pain and pleasure to motivate you – stirring up as much PAIN as possible, around staying the same, and as much PLEASURE as possible around making the change.

The Outcome

By the end of it all, you’ll have made clear, recognisable, positive steps forward.

You’re not just waiting for things to change or for the right person to magically appear in your life. You’re taking control and being proactive. It’s incredibly empowering.

By doing this – not only are you fully embracing single life, and making the most of this stage of your life; you’re also making it far more enjoyable — and, you’re increasing your chances of finding love in the process by developing yourself in the ways you need.

So What Do You Say, Are You Going To Give It a Go?

If you like the sound of this, but would like a little support and guidance in developing it, then Schedule a FREE Discovery Call, and allow us to run through our affordable coaching & accountability options.

This is our specialism, our niche. We’ve been coaching for over half a decade now, so we seriously know our stuff, and it would genuinely be a pleasure to support you.

Whatever you choose – know that you’ve got this and you can do WHATEVER you set your mind to.

Wishing you all the best.

Love,
Ell_xx

Why You Need a Singles Personal Development Plan
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Ella Stearn
Ell is a Breakup, Dating & Relationship Specialist & Coach, gaining over 7.5 million global readers to date. As the Creator of Forgetting Fairytales, her mission is to help you learn to love yourself, find the right person to give your love to, then make it a love that truly lasts.

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