Wondering what men value in women? What they’re really looking for and desiring? Then here’s 10 surprising qualities men value in women.
See, it’s pretty widely known that the right man will appreciate your kindness, your compassion, your sense of humour, your intelligence, the list could go on.
But what are the more subtle qualities that men are in fact looking for? In this post, that’s what we aim to uncover. So let’s jump straight in, shall we?
10 Surprising Qualities Men Value In Women
In no particular order, here’s 10 surprising qualities men value in women.
Have a read and consider not only how many of these qualities you personally hold, but how you can demonstrate them when dating to make a guy want you even more…
1) Your Confidence
First up, we’ve got confidence! This can often come as a surprise, as a lot of women fall into the trap of thinking men are intimidated by this.
Because sure – some men can be intimidated by confident women, potentially due to insecurities, traditional gender roles and social conditioning, but it’s a complex issue with varying perspectives.
For mature, modern men (the kind you’re likely to want to attract) your confidence is a major plus for them.
After all, confidence radiates an attractive sense of self-worth. It can also be appealing to men, as it suggests you’re more likely to feel secure in a relationship, which builds a strong foundation for the two of you to flourish.
Insecurities can turn relationships toxic, if not destroy them, so you having a healthy sense of self-worth is certainly something that appeals to men.
2) Your Cleanliness
This one’s a bit of a no-brainer, but it’s something that we often don’t think about often.
Men, like women, seriously value cleanliness. It prevents them from getting “the ick” and deems you more attractive.
Taking care of yourself shows that you value yourself and have good habits.
So this is a small one that is surprisingly underrated. It can be pretty “make-or-break” when it comes to first impressions! Similarly…
3) Your Tidiness
Gender roles have come on a long way, there’s no denying that. But tidiness is something that men still value. After all, your home environment significantly impacts the way that you feel.
If a guy is tidy and you’re not, this can prove incredibly frustrating – especially when you reach the point of moving in together.
On the flip side, if the both of you are naturally messy people, it can lead to increased stress, conflict, and resentment, as the shared living space becomes a source of friction and disagreement about chores and tidiness.
Does this mean you have to try to be a domestic goddess? Of course not! But if you show you have good habits around the home, it’s certainly something a guy will value and respect.
4) Your Ability To Nurture
Although men like to take control and are biologically wired to be protectors, they also find comfort in your ability to nurture.
Nurturing can help men feel loved, supported, and understood, which are fundamental emotional needs.
Likewise, nurturing behaviors, like listening, empathy, and validation, can strengthen bonds and create a sense of intimacy in relationships.
For this reason, it’s most definitely one of the surprising qualities men value in women.
You can actually tap into this with these refreshing phrases men go crazy for when dating.
See, it doesn’t matter how “hard” their exterior may be, inside – most men can be pretty soft and find a soft, nurturing nature in you, really quite comforting and encouraging!
5) Your Open-Mindedness
No-one likes to feel judged. Likewise, everyone likes to feel like they can be their true selves around someone.
A woman who is open-minded is often therefore easier to talk to.
This is important and appealing as they’re then able to feel like they can share their thoughts / feelings / problems with them – which is something that men can often find difficult to begin with.
Open-mindedness appeals to men because it enables them to form a stronger, more meaningful, more positive and fulfilling relationships. So it’s certainly a quality that is not given enough recognition.
6) Your Willingness To Let Things Go / Forgive
Now we’re not saying men are looking for women who they can walk all over. Not a chance!
This would certainly be one of the signs he’s probably going to cheat if it were the case.
But everyone makes mistakes. And it’s important to learn how to let things go in a relationship – how to stop turning the small stuff into big issues that can turn a relationship toxic.
For this reason, is a man notices that a woman is able to let things go, it’s a quality that really stands out to him.
He doesn’t want grief, he doesn’t want blow-ups, he doesn’t want to be told what to do or what he’s done wrong all the time. For staters, that’s a huge blow to a man’s ego!
If you’re willing to let things go, it also shows maturity and – again – builds the strong foundations for a healthy relationship.
So if a guy is looking for something serious, this is definitely one of the surprising qualities that he’ll pick up on notice far more than you think! On a similar note…
7) Your Laid Back Nature
Nagging in a relationship is one of the bad relationship habits you want to try to break.
It’s also a significant relationship turn-off for men, often seen as a form of toxic communication that can damage trust and lead to resentment.
For this reason, if you want to attract a man to begin with – a laid back nature is also a seriously underrated attractive quality to demonstrate.
It shows a guy a little snippet of what you’re likely to be like in a relationship, and they picture a life of far less stress!
You don’t have to change how you are, but just show that that side is within you.
After all, when you’re more laid back, men feel comfortable to be able to be their full, true selves, without the fear backlash, or them causing offence.
8) Your Independence
Another surprising quality men value in women is their independence.
This relates to confidence and the ability to build a healthy, happy relationship.
It’s also attractive to men when you have your own hobbies, your own interests, your own things going on in your life.
It adds depth of character to you which is interesting to them, and suggests you’re less likely to be clingy in a relationship.
9) Your Femininity
You’ll hear endless pieces of dating advice for how to tap into your feminine energy to attract a man. But, it does actually have a place…
This makes it one of the perhaps less surprising qualities men value in women if you’re already familiar with this, but it’s worth pointing out, because you can still be a strong, confident, badass independent women and show your softer, more feminine side too…
In fact, this only benefits you.
Men are often attracted to feminine qualities. They really admire and value that side to women, especially when it differs to their own.
Feminine qualities can be seen as a source of emotional support, empathy, and a softer approach to life, which can be appealing to men who may typically be more focused on logic and action.
10) Your Passion
Last but not least – we’ve got passion!
Passion is infectious in the best of ways. Passionate people can ignite the fire in you, which is one of the reasons why they draw you in.
Whether a woman is passionate about her work, a hobby, a cause, or just – well – life and love, it can therefore be a serious turn-on and area of attraction for men.
So don’t be shy to share the things that you’re passionate about, or show your passion towards a guy you like. It will only work in your favour – trust me!
That’s All For This One
So there we have it. That rounds up 10 surprising qualities men value in women. I hope you have found this both thought provoking and eye opening.
Got any thoughts? Any questions? Then don’t be shy to drop them in the comments box below.
Love,
Ell_xx
