Want to learn how to improve your dating profile? Know what you need to do to make your profile ACTUALLY stand out? Then here’s 21+ simple (yet incredibly effective) ways to improve your dating profile, recommended by a leading dating expert.
See, if you follow these 21+ dating profile tips, you’re undoubtably onto a winner and will consequently find an increase in QUALITY matches as a result.
(Which is the most important thing. Less is more, so long as you’re connecting with the right kind of people, who are looking for the same things as you and match your vibe.)
So, what do you need to do? What does it actually take? Well, let’s get stuck in, shall we?
21+ (Simple Yet Effective) Ways To Improve Your Dating Profile
In no particular order, here’s 21+ ways to improve your dating profile. Work through them all in one go, or save certain tasks to your dating checklist, coming back to it at a later date.
When it comes to improving your dating profile, you want to…
1) Start with how you’d define yourself.
This should be your profile bio. It’s short, snappy and basically like your elevator pitch of the dating world.
Remember – you’re just trying to impress, but instead, simply summarising you and what you’re all about, to attract like-minded people.
2) Re-read your profile bio. Does it feel like “you”?
Once you’ve created a profile bio you’re happy with – re-read it to see if it feels and sounds like you.
I mean, it’s not just simply about outlining the right things, but typing it in the way that you speak and adding your personality in.
This can be done by using emojis, capitals, punctuation, exaggerated words and humour.
3) Double check spelling and grammar.
It’s a small thing but it’s worth mentioning, so that you don’t get pre-judged.
And hey, if you’re in a rush, it happens to the best of us. But if you want to improve your dating profile, you should be taking your time on it so simple mistakes like this, shouldn’t be missed!
4) Pick photos that match.
Once you have your bio spruced up, you can then pick photos that match. These should help to build a clearer picture of you and what you’re all about.
So, for example, if you say you like travel, include some travel pictures instead of just all mirror selfies.
Or if you love animals – be sure to have a picture with your favourite furry friend on there!
5) Make sure you have a MIX of photos.
Each photo should highlight a different side of you or different aspect of your life to add more personality to your profile.
So if your initial mix looks very samey – switch a photo or two up.
Remember – you don’t have to necessarily show your BEST self with you best insta-perfect pictures, you want to show your TRUE self as that’s what makes it authentic and real… Plus far more refreshing!
6) Make sure your photos are recent.
Oh – and by the way, as good as a photo may be, if it’s back from 2018, it needs to go. People want to see what you look like and are up to NOW.
So try to avoid any major throwbacks. Save these for when you’re speaking and explaining more specific stories (if you want or need!)
7) SMILE – Genuinely!
Another essential check when it comes to improving your dating profile is ensuring that you have some pictures with a genuine smile on your profile.
Studies show a smile is the most memorable attribute people remember. And further research has shown that “the most attractive profile pictures, show people smiling genuinely at the camera, with their head slightly tilted.”
So if you like your smile or not, you should undoubtably be showing it.
Forget the posing, forget the perfect pictures, allow people to see what real joy looks like to you, and they’ll be falling in love in no time! Similarly…
8) Scrap the sunglasses!
According to data that Tinder released, wearing sunglasses in your pictures can decrease your swipe-right rate by 15%.
And it makes sense, right? Your eyes communicate so much of your personality. Wearing sunglasses is effectively like wearing a mask on part of your face!
So scrap the sunnies and allow people to see that beautiful face of yours!
9) Fill out all of your basic information.
Most dating apps nowadays have an area at the top for you to specify key information like – your age, where you live, what your job is, what you’re looking for; that sort of thing.
So if you want to improve your dating profile, be sure to ensure that ALL questions are answered – and answered honestly and truthfully.
(It’s all going to come out in the end, anyway, so you may as well be transparent from the start!)
10) Include as many “prompt” answers as you can.
Most dating apps allow you to answer question prompts. They’ll give you a good selection. (Dating Me Is Like is a popular one for example.)
One of the key steps to improving your dating profile is therefore undoubtably to pick out the questions that fit best for you, and provide as many as the dating app enables on your profile.
The more, the better. You don’t look desperate for having a complete profile. You look interesting and give people not only more things to work with, but more reasons to swipe right!
11) Avoid saying the same old things.
Now it’s worth mentioning that – particularly when answering your question prompts – you avoid saying the same old things…
We mean the things you’ve seen and read on dating apps a hundred times before.
You think it sounds fun? Well it takes all personality away! It also feels less genuine.
Like for example, using the old “pineapple on pizza?” question. That’s been SO overdone. And who even cares?! Be original. Be yourself. Think of your own things to say! On a similar note…
12) Be specific.
It’s easy to say, “I love movies” or “I love traveling” or “I love hanging out with friends” even. I mean, how many times have you read these things on people’s profiles?
Again, it’s generic. It adds no value as, everyone’s saying it.
So review your profile and spot any areas in which you can get more specific.
- What’s your favourite movie? How many movies do you want a month?
- Where has been the best country you’ve traveled to? How many different countries have you visited so far?
- Where’s your favourite place to hang out with friends? Are we talking more classy cocktail bar or chilled pub sort of vibe?
You see? It’s small, smart changes like this that makes a major difference and helps people better connect with you, personally.
13) Try to show, not just tell.
So we touched on this above with your photos, but there’s a number of ways to show rather than simply tell.
For example, let’s say you’d like to think of yourself as a pretty funny person – write something funny in your profile to show this, rather than simply saying, “I’m a pretty funny gal.”
Or let’s say you’re ambitious and are looking to find someone like-minded who matches you on that – use a question prompt to share something that you’ve done that you’re passionate about, that better demonstrates your sense of ambition.
You see what I mean? So this is another key thing to review then work on, when looking to improve your dating profile.
14) Keep it short yet snappy.
It’s also worth reminding you that people do, unfortunately, have a short attention span on dating apps.
You could have the BEST answers, but if they’re all long-winded, the chances are – a lot of people won’t read them all anyway!
So once you know what you want to say, see if you can cut it down in any way, without taking away from what you want to get across.
Aim for short, snappy, concise and to the point – it’s the winning combo when it comes to crafting an engaging dating app profile that actually stands out.
15) Forget going all, “me, me, me.”
Now when it comes to improving your dating profile, you absolutely will want to focus on sharing the things that best get across who you are as a person.
But don’t make the fatal error of not even mentioning what you’re looking for in a potential partner (and therefore a match), too.
This helps you better “qualify” even at the early swiping stage.
You don’t need to say a lot, but a sentence of two about who the kind of person you’re looking for, can help you attract exactly that!
16) Don’t be afraid to mention your values.
Mentioning work, hobbies, things you love, are all the norm on dating apps. But don’t be afraid to step out and go a little deeper to, again, attract the right people who really align with you on that.
It could be a simple phrase like, “kindness is everything to me” – but to the right person, who shares the same value and belief, this is enough to make you stand out more than anyone else.
So if you want to improve your dating profile – see where and how you can throw short statements like this in!
17) Don’t be afraid to say the word “love” and “relationship.”
Okay, now here’s an interesting one! Interestingly, a team of PhD scientists analyzed the words used by the 1.2 million profiles on PlentyOfFish and noticed some very clear trends.
You can see the full list of words here, but those who have found love, use the word “love” the most in their profiles.
The words “heart,” “children,” “romantic” and “relationship” are all markers of a man most likely to see success in love.
Whats more, women who found relationships used the word “relationship” 16% more often than those who are still single. (🤯!)
So consider the key words you want to include in your profile, based on what you’re looking for!
18) Quit complaining.
Nothing is more unattractive than moaning or negativity. You may think you’re playing it cool by criticising dating apps (or anything actually), but really – it’s just a turn off.
Avoid negativity of any form – even if you are using it in a jokey way. Instead focus on what you do like, what you do enjoy, your outlook to life, any fun times or funny stories, and you’ll have far more success on dating apps.
Remember – things don’t always come across the way you want to when you’re texting / typing it, so be safe instead of sorry with this one. Similarly..
19) Don’t bring your baggage into your profile.
No-one wants or needs to know about your past heartache, fears of abandonment, trust issues or insecurities – no matter what caused them or however valid they are.
Showing any signs of them here – is NOT the time or the place.
Sure, it may come up in conversation on the dating apps once matched and, in most cases, that can be okay.
But don’t let it define you or being part of summarising you – because there’s so much more to you than that!
20) Make it easy for your matches to initiate conversation.
Another great way to improve your dating profile and have it work harder for you, is to ask a question, following on from something you’ve shared about yourself.
That way, you guide the conversation and create easy openers for them.
(This also then in turn reduces the amount of lame “hey” opening lines you get, too! Because let’s be fair, we long for far more fun & creative opening lines than that!)
21) See it as exciting, not a chore.
Last but not least, if you want to improve your dating profile – see it as exciting, not a chore.
It makes a difference in how you come across.
Use these dating affirmations to get in the right mood if you need but remember – attitude really is everything, and it can make or break your success online.
That’s All For This One
So there we have it – that rounds up our 21+ key steps to improving your dating profile, broken down into simple tasks and checks. I hope you’ve found this valuable.
If you’re still struggling, be sure to book in a Power Hour Coaching Call and we’ll spruce up your profile together, in just one session.
Best of luck. Happy swiping!
Love,
Ell_xx
