About

Do you want to create an extraordinary life, filled with true love, happiness and fulfilment?

Then my friends, you’ve come to the right place! Forgetting Fairytales is a Breakup, Dating and Relationship blog that focuses on helping you become the person you really want to be and attract the love you really deserve. It’s about becoming the happiest, most confident version of yourself, finding the person who’s genuinely right for you, and then building a meaningful, long-lasting relationship that will grow with you, as you do.

Breakup, Dating & Relationship Blog

You’re not a “damsel”, you don’t need rescuing and if you’re waiting for that perfect “Prince Charming”, well, you’ll probably be waiting for a while. Perfect people don’t exist. People who are pretty much perfect for you, well… that’s more like it. That’s within reach. But it’s not a given. And here at Forgetting Fairytales, we’re not prepared to leave it down to chance. See, you can have that “happily ever after” that you’ve always dreamed of. You can write the love story you really want and deserve. But it all starts with you. So whether you’re…

Single…

It’s about getting you through a breakup, helping you to heal, making sure you’ve dealt with any past issues or limiting beliefs. We then want you to reach the point of being happily single, learning to not only survive but THRIVE on your own! We want you to start living your life to the absolute full and making the most of your freedom… which means doing all the things you want to do (and more!) You shouldn’t be desperately searching for someone to ‘complete you.’ This time should be all about you, your journey of self-discovery and a huge stage of growth. So get ready for a major breakthrough!

Dating…

When you’re ready to start thinking about meeting someone new, we’re going to be right by your side! We’ll help you to learn from your past relationships, use it to figure out the kind of person you’re looking for now, and help you to become the person you not only need to be – but know that you really are. There will be dating tips, dating advice – literally everything you need and more to get through the trials and tribulations of dating in the twenty first century… and actually end up enjoying it! There’s just one rule: to never settle. In fact, by the end of it, I guarantee you will find ‘true love’ – just without all the cliches.

In a Relationship…

Moving onto relationships now, it’s time to make them everything you’ve ever wanted and more. No-ones perfect, just like no relationship is either. But it’s about facing challenges together, working through any issues and learning & growing as a couple, so that you become stronger. We want to expand your knowledge, help you to become the best partner that you can be and build the deepest, most fulfilling relationship with the right person. And if it turns out you’re in the wrong relationship – well, we’ll give you the courage and confidence to walk away and start afresh, knowing it was the right thing to do.

Sounds good? You bet it is! Forgetting Fairytales is all about supporting, inspiring and empowering women. For this reason, there’s wellness and personal development at the core of all our posts. We want to look after your mind whilst pushing yourself to grow. The relationships that you have with others are vastly influenced by the relationship that you have with yourself – which is why we always start within. Stop wishing, start working. And I promise you, if you stick with it, you’ll soon have the life and relationships that you’ve always dreamed of… How do I know? Because I’m speaking from experience.

Ella Stearn- Forgetting Fairytales

Meet Ell,

Now we’ve got the blog concept out the way, I guess it would be a pretty good idea to introduce myself. My names Ell, and I’m your fairy godmother… Joking! Like we believe in that. 

But I would genuinely love to support you on your journey because for me personally – I’ve had a pretty rocky one when it comes to love. In fact, I think it’s fair to say I’ve not had the best track record with men.

At the age of fifteen, I was assaulted by the person who I thought was my first true love. It was a huge trauma that forced me to hit rock bottom, questioning everyone and everything. 

I then got into my first serious relationship at sixteen, hoping to heal, only for it to break down two years down the line, finding out he’d also cheated on me. Brilliant. A real kick in the stomach. 

By nineteen then, I thought my luck was turning… I met a man who would finally make me feel whole again. I got engaged at twenty two, was planning my dream wedding set to be married by twenty five and truly felt ready to settle down and start a family.

Only it didn’t get that far… because my hopes were ripped apart, I discovered just lie after lie and was forced to walk away and re-build myself once more. Uh huh, epic sob story, I know… 

But actually, everything that’s happened has only helped to shape me into the strong, determined woman I am today. My views haven’t been tainted, I’m still a hopeful romantic, only now, I also have a load of kick-ass knowledge to go with it. Why? Because I’ve been able to learn from my past experiences, I’ve turned my past struggles into strength and now, I’m so blessed to be able to help others to do the same too.

Setting up Forgetting Fairytales, for me, has been life-changing. I’ve immersed myself in the world of dating, relationships and personal development, becoming a real expert in my field. I write for a living, I coach for a living and my work is having a real impact. We’re now edging closer to hitting 150,000 monthly readers, with hundreds of free articles, pointing you in the right direction, and additional one-to-one support available when you need it.

Please note: this site is designed for women, but – due to popular demand – a men’s version of the site has also now launched. Proudly introducing: Not Just Charming. Many of the articles will talk about “guys” and “men”, but I am fully supportive of the LGBT community. I speak generally, but do not discount, so please do bear this in mind when reading.

My goal here is to 1) Help you learn to love yourself. To know your worth. To build you up. 2) We’ll then look at finding someone worthy of giving your love to. You’re a special person. You deserve someone who really see’s that and appreciates everything and all that you are. 3) Last but not least, it’s about building the happiest, healthiest relationship so that your love always lasts. So what do you say? Are you in, or are you in?