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Do you want to create an extraordinary life, filled with true love, happiness and fulfilment?

Then my friends, you’ve come to the right place! Forgetting Fairytales is a Specialist Breakup, Dating and Relationship blog that focuses on helping you become the person you really want to be and attract (then keep!) the love you really deserve.

It’s about becoming the happiest, most confident version of yourself, finding the person who’s genuinely right for you, and then building a meaningful, long-lasting relationship that will grow with you, as you do.

Breakup, Dating & Relationship Blog

See, you’re not a “damsel”, you don’t need “rescuing” and if you’re waiting for that perfect “Prince Charming”, well, you’ll probably be waiting for a while. Perfect people don’t exist. People who are pretty much perfect for you, well… that’s more like it. That’s within reach. But it’s not a given. And here at Forgetting Fairytales, we’re not prepared to leave it down to chance.

See, you can have that “happily ever after” that you’ve always dreamed of. You can write the love story you really want and deserve. But it all starts with you. So whether you’re…

Single…

It’s about getting you through a breakup, helping you to heal, making sure you’ve dealt with any past issues or limiting beliefs. We then want you to reach the point of being happily single, learning to not only survive but THRIVE on your own! We want you to start living your life to the absolute full and making the most of your freedom… which means doing all the things you want to do (and more!) You shouldn’t be desperately searching for someone to ‘complete you.’ This time should be all about you, your journey of self-discovery and a huge stage of growth. So get ready for some major breakthroughs!

Dating…

When you’re ready to start thinking about meeting someone new, we’re going to be right by your side! We’ll help you to learn from your past relationships, use it to figure out the kind of person you’re looking for now, and help you to become the person you not only need to be – but know that you really are. There will be dating tips, dating advice – literally everything you need and more to get through the trials and tribulations of dating in the twenty first century… and actually end up enjoying it! There’s just one rule: to never settle. In fact, by the end of it, I guarantee you will find ‘true love’ – just without all the cliches.

In a Relationship…

Moving onto relationships – it’s time to make them everything you’ve ever wanted and more. No-ones perfect, just like no relationship is either. But it’s about facing challenges together, working through any issues and learning & growing as a couple. We want to expand your knowledge, help you to become the best partner that you can be & build the deepest, most fulfilling relationship with the right person. And if it turns out you’re in the wrong relationship – well, we’ll give you the courage and confidence to walk away and start afresh, knowing it was the right thing to do. Because trust me when I say – you’re going to have the kind of love you really deserve!

Ella Stearn, Forgetting Fairytales

Meet Ell,

Now we’ve got the blog concept out the way, I guess it would be a pretty good idea to introduce myself. My names Ell, and I’m your fairy godmother… Joking! Like we believe in that. 

But I would genuinely love to support you on your journey because for me personally – I’ve had a pretty rocky one when it comes to love. In fact, I think it’s fair to say I’ve not had the best track record with men…

At the age of fifteen, I was assaulted by the person who I thought was my first true love. It was a huge trauma that forced me to hit rock bottom, questioning everyone and everything. 

I then got into my first serious relationship at sixteen, hoping to heal, only for it to break down two years down the line, finding out he’d also cheated on me. Brilliant. A real kick in the stomach. 

By nineteen then, I thought my luck was turning… I met a man who I thought would finally make me feel whole again. I got engaged at twenty two, was planning my dream wedding set to be married by twenty five and truly felt ready to settle down.

Only it didn’t get that far… because my hopes were ripped apart, I discovered just lie after lie and was forced to walk away and re-build myself once more. Uh huh, epic sob story, I know… 

But actually, I don’t feel sad about this. I feel thankful. Everything that’s happened has only helped to shape me into the strong, determined woman I am today. I have turned my past struggles into strength. I’ve discovered my life purpose. And now, I am lucky enough to be living it…

See, I didn’t want anyone to ever feel as broken or alone as I once did. I also hated how helpless I felt, how powerless and vulnerable.

So I completely immersed myself in learning the depths of breakups, dating and relationships – the key challenges, the psychology that is all linked in with it, but most importantly, the solutions: what you can do. I read books, I worked out key strategies, I developed fundamental processes and -just to cover all areas– gained coaching qualifications with the Institute of Counselling and the Robbins-Madanes Coaching Academy. After that, I then launched Forgetting Fairytales.

Established in just 2020, Forgetting Fairytales has rapidly grown to over 280,000 monthly readers, reaching over 3.36 MILLION people every single year. We have over 200+ FREE support articles, a new growing community support group and offer private breakup, dating & relationship coaching, due to popular demand.

I am lucky enough to work with men and women, all over the world, to resolve even the most challenging situations, or deeply embedded issues. So no matter how lost or alone you may feel right now, I want you to know, hand on heart, it can all start to change… And it will… Beginning now…