Are you ready for a relationship? Or do you need more time being single? Whether you’re seeing someone right now or not, we’re going to get to the bottom of things to see where you’re really at. So first up, we’re going to run through the key signs of whether or not you’re ready for a relationship. After that, we’ve got an interactive quiz so that you can find out the answer for yourself! Sounds good? Alright then. Let’s start from the top…
How Do You Know If You’re Ready For A Relationship?
You can be ready for a relationship, but may not have found the right person just yet. Or you can be “seeing” people, but so not ready.
It’s complicated, I know. But it’s important to get clear on how you feel, and whether you’re being drawn to someone for the wrong reasons.
As a little tick-list, if you like, to knowing you’re ready for a relationship, you want to:
1) Be In The Right Headspace
Can you confidently say that you…
- Genuinely have that DESIRE for a relationship.
- Are fully over your ex and aren’t just re-bounding, looking for a distraction, or looking for someone to fill a void. On that note…
- Know that you aren’t looking for someone to ‘save’ you or ‘complete’ you.
You have to get into a relationship for the right reasons. And the only way to know if they’re right, is when you’re in the best place mentally – when you can both think and see things clearly.
- Have dealt with your past issues (e.g. trust issues) or any hurt. This is important. Don’t carry old baggage into a new relationship. It will make it far harder (and far less enjoyable) than it should be.
2) Be Happy In Who You Are
Can you confidently say that you…
- Feel in a strong place mentally and emotionally. Are you happy with who you are? Are you able to deal with life’s challenges? Are you still working on becoming the best version for you?
- Aren’t looking for love out of loneliness. This is a big one, and a real recipe for disaster!
3) Know It’s Not Too Soon
Can you confidently say that you…
- Have been enjoying being single.
You need to be able to be happy by yourself, before you move on to being happy with someone else.
- Have had that time to be happy in your own life, where you’re at and the things you have – so a relationship would simply complement that.
A relationship should be a want, not a need.
4) Be Clear On What You’re Looking For
Can you confidently say that you…
- Know your personal boundaries and what you will and won’t tolerate.
- Know your value and self-worth. We don’t want anyone being able to walk all over you!
- Are clear on what you’re looking for in a partner. (Both your deal breakers and desirables.)
Take the time to know the things you’re looking for in a partner. What is and isn’t important to you, but most importantly WHY.
- Are clear on what kind of relationship you want to build.
5) Have a Sense of Maturity
Can you confidently say that you…
- Are prepared to put in the hard work. All relationships have their challenges – even the best of ones. If you therefore want them to last, you shouldn’t get into them lightheartedly. You can’t just walk away when things are anything less than ideal.
Maturity is therefore a big indicator when it comes to whether you’re ready for a relationship.
- Are willing to commit to just one person, and want to do that.
- Have learnt from any past mistakes you’ve made in a relationship and be looking to GIVE in a relationship, just as much as what you want to GAIN from one. Attitude is everything.
- Understand that no-one is perfect.
You can’t shape someone into who you want them to be. If you’re getting into a relationship with them, you need to accept, love and appreciate them for who they are.
Are You READY For A Relationship?
Of course anyone can get into a relationship. You don’t actually need to even be “ready” to do that! The thing is, life is short, and so we shouldn’t waste time.
Each stage of our life has different advantages, so you don’t want to miss out on a stage by moving things along too quickly.
At the same time, you don’t want to push yourself into something for the WRONG reasons, and then go on to regret it.
So, know what you want in life. Know where you’re at.
If you do get into a relationship – don’t just do it for the sake of it and definitely don’t do it with someone who you don’t see as long term, or know – deep down – isn’t quite right.
Timing is everything, and you can be ready – but just have not “found” the right one. But that’s okay. There’s no pressure, no rush. Be patient and enjoy this great headspace that you’re now in.
Everything will fall to place in time, and when it does – when you know you’re ready for a relationship and have found someone on the same wavelength as you, who also is too – then you’ll be so thankful you waited. Trust me!
Are You Ready For A Relationship? (Quiz)
Click here and take the “Are You Ready For a Relationship Quiz!” See if your results come back as a YES, NO, or MAYBE, and start to decide what that means for you…
You should also ask yourself these questions before dating, as they can be very revealing too.
What’s The Next Steps From Here?
Well, that depends on the verdict – are you ready for a relationship? What do you think?
If you’ve found someone you click with, you’ve been taking things slowly and are finally ready to move things forward with confidence and clarity – I am so happy and excited for you.
If you’ve done all the groundwork and you’re now in a great place, I also can’t wait to see who you attract and meet! You’ve done things the right way, and I’m so proud of you for that!
If you’re not quite there yet, don’t worry. It’s not a bad thing. Life is all about what you make it. So wherever you’re currently at – embrace it!
Take care.
Love,
Ell_xx
