Self confidence is a skill. It’s something you can learn to master, something you can work on and improve. So it’s time to get you thinking – to get you discovering your own strengths and sense of self-worth. Here’s 20 questions to increase self confidence. Answer a couple every day, or spend the afternoon working on them all in one go. It’s totally up to you.
Just make sure you actually write down the answers. Don’t just say them in your head. Let’s get them down in one place. I recommend copying and pasting the questions onto the Notes feature on your phone, then jotting the response down below. You can then keep it with you to look back on when you need the reminder.
It’s also worth coming back to these questions for confidence – answering them again at a later date. (The comparison is fascinating as you continue to learn more about yourself throughout your journey of growth.)
Unsure what to write / say? No worries. As long as you put down SOMETHING. And no – this isn’t about being cocky or big-headed. It’s about simply seeing yourself for the wonderful person that you are, and choosing to lift yourself up.
After all, as Malcolm S. Forbes so rightly said, “Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are…”
Questions To Increase Self Confidence
So without further ado, here’s 20 questions to build self confidence.
- What are some things that you are most proud of achieving in your life?
- Which challenges have you faced, but gotten through?
- What are the core beliefs and values that you pride yourself in?
- Write down 10 of your favourite qualities.
- And now 10 of the physical features you like about yourself.
- What makes you feel alive, happy, fulfilled?
- Who are you lucky to have in your life? Who loves, supports, encourages and believes in you? And how does that make you feel?
- Do you have any limiting beliefs you know you need to destroy?
- How have you helped others in your life? And how would you like to help more moving forward?
- What bad experiences have you been through but learnt from? Or situations that you thought were bad, but ended up being the best thing for you?
- How have you learnt to love and accept yourself over the past few years?
- Write down some quotes that inspire you. Do you think you’re living by them?
- What are you most grateful for in your life right now?
- How have others complemented or recognised you? What kind of things have they said?
- What are your greatest strengths? Any skills? Any talents that you’ve under-rated?
- Think of some times where you did something that scared you, or which you never thought you could do. How did you feel afterwards?
- What do you have to look forward to? To feel excited about?
- Do you feel confident you’re heading in the right direction to becoming the person you want to be? Make a note of the progress you’ve made so far and the areas you’re going to continue to improve in.
- Why are you important? Why does your life and your work, and your presence, really matter?
- What does self confidence feel like to you? And what would you do if you had all the confidence in the world?
That Rounds It Up
So there we have it – 20 questions to increase self confidence! How did you find it? The first time is always likely to be the most difficult, especially if you’re not used to speaking particularly highly of yourself.
Don’t worry if you have to revisit some questions more than once. You might have found that some of these questions actually got you thinking about some things you’d never really thought about before. If so, that’s actually a good thing. It’s expanding your mind and helping you to grow.
Not 100% happy with everything you had to say? Don’t beat yourself up about that either. Remember, this isn’t the end of your journey. By recognising the areas you’d like to say more in, it enables you to work on exactly that – which in turn helps you to become the person you really want to be.
Just try not to be too hard on yourself. Appreciate what you have done to date, and who you are as a person, at the core. We’re all a work in progress but you have so much to feel good about already. You should feel proud!
Sending all my love and encouragement. A few other posts you might find valuable:
- How To Feel Confident About The Way You Look
- Three Steps To Destroy Self Doubt
- The 30 Day Self Improvement Challenge
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