30 Day Self Love Challenge To Increase Self Love

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Want to learn to love yourself? To be kinder to yourself? To appreciate yourself more? Then it’s time for the 30 day self love challenge – getting you into healthy habits that improve the way you feel.

The 30 Day Self Love Challenge – Guidelines

I’ve created this self love challenge, giving you a new task every day, for the next 30 days. Some tasks are bigger or smaller than others, so if you need to take more time than one day to complete them, that’s okay.

If for any reason you miss a day – don’t worry about that either. You don’t need to stress out or try to play catchup. Instead, just carry on with the challenge where you left it the following day.

Work through it at your own pace if you need. The most important thing is that you’re taking consistent action to build your sense of self-love.

To make it easier, I also recommend adding this post to your bookmark. That way you can revisit it every day, with ease.

You can also share it with your friends on social media to encourage them to take on the challenge at the same time. (There’s nothing like supporting one another with things like this! It also means you then have someone to keep you accountable.)

So you ready? I hope so! Here’s our 30 day self love challenge. Let’s go, go, go.

30 Day Self Love Challenge

I’m going to break down the 30 Day Self Love Challenge into 4 weeks with 1 “Prep Day” before and 1 “Roundup Day” after. This therefore creates a total of 28 core days, plus the additional 2 making it 30 in total.

Prep Day

So to kick off the 30 day self love challenge, I want you to start by grabbing yourself a pretty journal and writing in it today.

Benefits of Journaling

I want you to write down how you feel, how you want to feel, where you’re currently at in terms of your level of self-love and self-esteem and where you want it to be.

In fact, rate it on a scale of 1-10. Where are you currently at? Then write bullet points as to why. Write bullet points as to the specific insecurities that you have and where the self doubt seems to come from.

You don’t have to dig too deep just yet. At this stage it’s more about getting things out of your head, and on paper. 

Write and write and write until your hearts content, and know that by the end of this – many of these things that you don’t like, will be worked through. (Woohoo!)

All done? Awesome. Then the challenge has officially begun and you’re ready to move into Week 1’s challenges tomorrow!


So it’s officially Week 1 of the 30 Day Self Love Challenge. Let’s get started!

Day 1:

Write down 5 things you like about yourself, and stick it on your mirror, wall or wardrobe door.

It needs to be somewhere you’ll see it every day when you wake up. Keep it there for the duration of the challenge.

Day 2:

Develop 1-3 positive affirmations about yourself and get into the habit of reading them every day.

These can be specific affirmations for low self esteem (if you need), but you 100% need to then make it part of your morning routine to really embed them into your mind!

Day 3:

Identify one physical insecurity that you have and work on feeling happier in the way that you look.

Day 4:

Go for a walk, jog or run. Go further than you’d usually go. Feel the blood pumping through your veins and appreciate your body and everything that it does for you.

Take a moment to value your health and make a pledge for one small activity you will do every week to better improve your health and physical wellbeing.

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Day 5:

Buy one thing you really want. Whether that’s a fancy new diary, a pretty little dress, a pair of shoes you’ve had your eyes on for a while now. Treat yourself – without feeling guilty!

Day 6:

Read up on Mindfulness Meditation, try a Guided Meditation, and consider how you could incorporate it into your life.

There’s plenty of relaxation techniques to choose from, learn and master… It’s all about building healthy habits and knowing how to look after your mental wellbeing.

Day 7:

Identify any past mistakes that you’re still holding onto.

Focus on how you’ve changed since then. Realise how it’s actually only made you stronger, kinder, wiser – and forgive yourself. Forgive yourself and let it go.


One week down, three still to go – on your mission to increase self love. Keep at it!

Day 8:

Take some time to get to know yourself better. The better you know yourself, the easier it becomes to learn to love yourself. Become your own best friend!

Start by asking yourself some of these key questions. Get into the habit of asking yourself a new one every week or day.

Day 9:

Self-awareness is also the first step to self-improvement and there’s plenty of areas for self improvement to home in on.

Simply choose an area, get specific then create a plan of action for improvement.

Becoming the best version of yourself, the version you really want to be – is key for self-love. 

Note: If there’s lots you want to work on, you may also like to read this on how to re-create yourself.

We love ourselves when our actions align with who we really are.

Make a list of your qualities, likes, traits, strengths, and passions. Then, write down how you can become or more of each thing. 

You can also work to remove the activities or traits that don’t feel true to you, and fill up the empty space with more you-ness.

Every work goal, wellness intention, and daily schedule should support becoming more of who you really are…

Self Reflection

Day 10:

Appreciate who you are in the here and now. Understand that you don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to constantly be so hard on yourself.

Know that you’re worthy of love, even as a “work in progress”, because that’s what we all are… works in progress. Perfection doesn’t really exist.

Look at the areas of your life where you may be putting too much pressure on yourself. Learn to be kinder. To readjust your expectations. To EASE that tension!

It will be like lifting a weight off your shoulders, and create more space for a better sense of self-love and appreciation.

Day 11:

Write a list of all the things you’re proud of – about yourself, about your life.

After that, write a list of all the things you want to do – feel proud that you have this passion, direction and all these things to look forward to.

Day 12:

Work your way through the rest of these “20 Questions To Increase Self Confidence.”

It’s all about recognising and appreciating who you are as a person. It works hand-in-hand with developing your sense of self-love.

Day 13:

Wear an outfit that makes you feel good. One that’s BOLD, but which feels like you.

Do your hair and makeup how you like it too – or how you’d actually like to have it. Then go out somewhere and hold that head up high! You’ve got this!

Day 14:

Sit back, relax and watch your favourite movie. Grab some popcorn or chocolates to go with it! Indulge without feeling guilty. You don’t have to be “good” all the time!

30 Day Self Love Challenge


We’re half way through the 30 Day Self Love Challenge! You’re doing so well. Let’s keep it up…

Day 15:

Start a gratitude diary. Every morning or every night, write down three things you’re thankful for. Or create gratitude notes and stick them around your home workspace! 

For more ideas on the simple things that bring you joy, click here. When you really notice it, there’s so much to be thankful for. You truly can find joy and appreciation in the smallest of things.

Day 16:

Spend a couple of hours swatting up on how to build your emotional stability.

Try a few of the recommended techniques and activities. The better you feel in yourself, the better you will feel about yourself.

It’s also worth learning more about your mind and your emotions – and how to better understand, manage and feel them, without fearing them.

Day 17:

Do a Random Act of Kindness. Helping others makes you feel warm and whole.

Day 18:

Identify any limiting beliefs that you have and vouch to work through them.

These may be closely linked to any underlying, unresolved issues you may have (like Fear of Abandonment for example!)

Recognise the source, understand why you feel the way you do, and then work through it. It will make you feel far happier in yourself.

Day 19:

Become aware of your self-talk, and recognise the common negative thoughts regularly reappear so that you can then work to destroy them!

Day 20:

Do a digital detox. Ban yourself from socials for a set period of time, or forever even (!) You can also set limits for how long you can spend scrolling through social media or your phone.

30 Day Self Love Challenge

It’s also a good idea to unfollow / mute any social media account that doesn’t make you feelinspired, encouraged, or good about yourself. You don’t need that in your life.

In fact, whilst you’re in the flow – do a toxic detox. Removing anyone from you life who drains you or drags you down. Click here for how to go about it, and why you have to!

Day 21:

In the spare time that you create from avoiding social media, instead, put it into developing a happiness plan. Click here for how to create one.


By this point, you should see a significant improvement in your level of self love. Isn’t it empowering?! Just one week left to go now. Keep it up!

Day 22:

It’s time do have some fun! Do one thing today that you really enjoy. One thing you haven’t done for a while perhaps, but which makes you laugh, smile, SCREAM with excitement even!

Day 23:

Spend quality time with a loved one, and fully focus on just appreciating them, appreciating the time you have together. Feel their love and care towards you.

Day 24:

Swat up on these strategies for how to increase your energy – so that you have more juice for life, and can put more into everything that you do!

Day 25:

Develop an evening self-care routine that makes you feel good. Click here for some inspiration of what you can include.

Make tonight extra special by extending the routine and making it FULL of pampering!

And remember – you’re worth it, you deserve it, and you don’t need to feel guilty about having time to yourself.

Self Care

Day 26:

Look in the mirror and really SEE yourself. See how beautiful you are – both inside and out. See it, feel it, feel yourself it, and believe it. 

Day 27:

Write yourself a love letter! What do you love about yourself? What do you wish you could tell yourself in the moments when self-doubt slips in? 

Write it all out, then tuck it in a drawer. The next time you’re feeling low it will be there waiting for you, ready to lift you back up!

Day 28:

If you’re still struggling to increase your sense of self-love, speak to a coach or therapist.

Research, book in an introductory call, find someone you’d feel comfortable speaking to and take the first step today!

You can feel the way you want to feel, I promise you. And you don’t have to do it on your own.

So if you’ve tried all of this and it’s still not working – don’t give up. Decide that this is the turning point now…

Final Day

So it’s the final day. The very last one of the 30 day self love challenge! The last thing “on the list”? To revisit that first diary entry you wrote.

  • What self-love score did you give yourself back then?
  • How did you feel? Where were you at? What issues held you back?
  • How do you feel now in comparison? What score could you give yourself now? In which ways have you improved? In which ways do you feel better about yourself?

There’s still going to be progress left to make, things still to work on.

But if you’ve followed this challenge properly, you should notice a significant difference – a clear step forward, some progress made.

The 30 Day Self Love Challenge – Complete

Once you’ve completed the 30 day self love challenge, I want you to consider how you’ll continue it in your life moving forward. Which activities helped the most? What things do you want to continue doing?

It’s also worth looking at which areas you still want to work on and making a plan for how you’re going to tackle them – because that’s the key… this should be the starting point.

We don’t want all that hard work going to waste!

So keep building on it. Stick with it.

Tried this and found it valuable? Let me know! I’d love to hear from you.

Lots of love,

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Ella Stearn
Ell is a Breakup, Dating & Relationship Specialist & Coach, with over 3 million annual readers, globally. As the Creator of Forgetting Fairytales, her mission is to help you learn to love yourself, find the right person to give your love to, then make it a love that truly lasts.

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