How do you know if your husband is attracted to another woman? What are the signs your husband has a crush on another woman? And what should you then think and do? In this post, we’re going to break it all down – giving you the clarity and confidence you need over the situation. So, let’s start from the top, shall we?
What Does It Mean If Your Husband Has a Crush on Another Woman?
So first up, if you’re looking for the signs your husband has a crush on another woman, it’s vitally important that you first get clear what exactly it means for him to be crushing on someone else.
See, by definition, a crush is: “a strong feeling of romantic love for someone that is usually not expressed and does not last a long time.”
Yikes. This means that if you’re recognising the signs your husband has a crush on another woman – it’s not just that he finds someone else attractive, it’s that he literally has “strong feelings”.
However, it can’t be “real love” because – in most cases – he barely even knows her! And crushes are usually pretty childlike which is why they usually “are not expressed” or “do not last a long time.”
So although it SOUNDS bad, initially, it’s up to you to take a step back and decide just how bad it is and isn’t.
I mean…
Yes, he may be fantasising about her. Perhaps, there’s even fleeting thoughts of what it could be like if he was with a woman like her. (Which, of course, is not particularly nice to think of.)
But the most important thing is:
- Is he acting on it?
- Would he ever really even CONSIDER acting on it?
- And is it even really “about you” or your marriage?
I mean, you can watch a movie and have a crush on an actor or a character, right?
But does that mean you think that your husband is any less of “the one” for you? Most likely not!
So in a similar way, are you likely to really have anything to worry about here? In most cases, no. But that can, of course, depend on a few things. Here, let me ask you a few questions…
Should You Be Worried If Your Husband Is Crushing On Someone Else?
If you’re trying to get your head around the prospect of your husband having a crush on another woman, and are wondering what to think / make of it all, then ask yourself:
- What is your marriage currently like?
- Is there still a lot of love and affection? Excitement? And chemistry, all still there?
- Or are you currently going through a difficult time, which may be why he’s having a crush on someone else?
- Are you worried that he doesn’t love you anymore? And that he doesn’t want to be with you?
- Or that your relationship become a little stale / stagnant, as times gone on and things aren’t quite the same?
- What is your GUT telling you? Is it saying that somethings “off” and you have “something to worry about”?
- Or do you know, deep down, that your relationship is strong and this crush is nothing at all?
Because there’s another factor that comes into all of this…
Who Does Your Husband Have a Crush On?
Whether or not you should be worried if you recognise the signs your husband has a crush on another woman, also depends on who that woman is.
I mean, there’s a significant difference between your husband crushing on a woman he works with every day, and seems to spend time with, out of hours even…
… Versus if your husband is crushing on a celebrity, or getting a little awkward / uncomfortable around one of your very attractive and successful friends even.
You see? So weigh all of this up when analysing this “crush” situation and how big of a “threat” it is. (Preferably BEFORE you start getting overwhelmed with relationship anxiety about it!)
Is It Normal For a Married Man To Have Feeling For Another Woman?
When you analyse WHO your husband is crushing on and HOW exactly he’s behaving (which will come shortly in our round-up of “the signs”), you can then conclude whether or not, it’s “normal” or “right.”
See, you can still be happily married and have your husband (or yourself) occasionally crushing on someone else.
It’s not necessarily a reflection on you, the state of your relationship, or something that’s missing. In fact, you’re far from the point of your relationship being beyond repair!
It could just be that your husband has found a slight attraction towards someone, because they’re beautiful, interesting, different or “refreshing.”
Gee, maybe you get these kind of “crushes” or bursts of admiration yourself…
But does that have to take away from how he feels towards you? No.
Just remember – that also doesn’t mean he has to act on it either. And if he’s trying to act on a crush he has, that’s a totally different story.
So let’s look at the “normal” signs your husband has a crush on another woman, before finishing off with the “worrying” signs your husband has a crush on another woman, so you can compare and conclude.
7 (Secret!) Signs Your Husband Has a Crush On Another Woman
Starting with the key “normal” signs your husband has a crush on another woman, first then. You may notice things like…
1) He Can’t Seem To Keep His Eyes Off Her
So, if your husband has a crush on another woman (even if it’s perfectly “innocent”), you will, unfortunately, find, that he can’t seem to keep his eyes off her.
And I know, it sucks. It can certainly stir up some jealousy or lead to clinginess or controlling behaviour from your side, as it’s not very nice to see.
And if you’ve seen it happen before, you may become more sensitive to it…
So ask yourself:
- Does he look at everyone?
- Is he just a people-watcher?
- Or if he looking at her more, and in a slightly different way?
2) He Asks Her Lots of Questions
Similarly, if your husband has a crush on another woman, you may find he speaks to her more…
He asks her lots of interesting questions, and seems to be interested in getting to know her more than most.
The truth is however – he’s attracted to her, he’s intrigued by her; that’s all part of him having a crush on her.
But, if it’s just a crush, it won’t last. The appeal will soon leave and he will be left with seeing her as just a friend.
So as long as he’s not crossing the line, making a play for her, or disrespecting you in the process, you can possibly start to see it as fairly harmless.
3) His Body Language Gives It Away!
Now one of the biggest signs your husband has a crush on another woman, can be seen within his body language.
So if you’re feeling stuck, questioning and wondering, swat up on these 22 examples of body language attraction. Because you’ll notice things like:
- Preening behaviour. Brushing his hair from his face, or readjusting his clothes.
- Licked or parted lips. Ugh, it sounds so… predatory, right?! But the natural instincts are all within us!
- Expressive facial moments. Like increased smiling, eyebrow raising, or the occasional widening of eyes.
- Open physical posture. A general open physical posture instead of a “closed” posture often indicates comfort, attraction and availability. He may also mirror her body language… Whether that’s consciously or not.
- Flushing or blushing. This one can be particularly irritating. You can literally SEE he’s acting like a crushing teenage girl!
This is to mention just a few. The powerful thing is – when you understand and are able to interpret, body language, you get a far clearer picture – not only of a person’s feelings but also of their intentions.
4) Or – He May Go Overboard On Trying To Hide It
Now, the chances are, your husband doesn’t want to have a crush on another woman. He loves YOU and only wants you!
But sometimes, he can go overboard, panicking, when trying to hide a secret little crush…
So for example, let’s say he has a crush on one of your friends. In this case, he might always say negative things about her, to try to show you he DOESN’T like / fancy her, when really… He doesn’t have to say anything at all!
Or, on the flip side, he may avoid of ignore this particular friend of yours that he’s crushing on… Or act uncomfortable / awkward when he is around her, particularly when you are also there.
The thing is – if he actually got to know her more, his crush would probably start to fade.
This is because she’s simply a fantasy. He’s built her up in his mind and she’s kind of become “forbidden fruit” that makes him feel like the crush he has on her is still there.
Just be mindful that if he is displaying signs of trying to hide or fight the crush he has, he’s doing it to try to protect you and the relationship; so it’s certainly not a bad thing.
He has no bad intention with it, nor does it probably hold any strength at all.
5) He Tries To Impress Her
Another, more annoying sign your husband has a crush on another woman, is if he seems to be trying to impress her.
This could be in the way he acts – flicking his hair back, standing broad, with that silly “brooding” look on his face.
Or, it could be in the things he says, so he mentions his success, or his cars, or even of his chivalrous acts of kindness or generosity… (Cue the eye roll from us all, here!)
Now, if it’s a harmless crush, he won’t be doing this with any bad intentions. Men can try to impress other men too; particularly ones they’re perhaps a little intimidated by.
So it won’t necessarily be unseen or rare behaviour…
But of course, if it’s a woman he seems to be trying to impress, it can feel and look a little different. So try not to react in the moment or jump to conclusions straight away.
6) There’s a Lot of Eye Contact
You may also have noticed a lot of eye contact between your husband and this other woman… I guess in a similar way as when you were dating, early days.
Psychologists think that when someone has a crush on you, they try to analyse you for crush signs too. But this can all happen subconsciously. Still, it’s not very nice to see…
7) He Becomes a Little More Secretive
Now, perhaps your husband has a crush on another woman, who you’ve not met before. This means you’re not there to witness all of the visual signs he has a crush on her.
But – you may notice more secretive behaviour… Like him hiding his social media search history, or getting a little moody or defensive if you ask certain questions that bring her up.
Remember – we’re not pointing out the signs your husband is more actively pursuing his crush, or being unfaithful in any way. That would be a totally different post.
So if he’s just crushing on someone – it will be nothing major, or – in some cases – barely recognisable… But that’s not actually a bad thing.
What Should You Do If Your Husband Has a Crush on Another Woman?
See, if your husband has a crush on another woman, and you’re recognising the signs of this, you then have to decide: “is this something worth bringing up, or not?”
If you’re recognising the signs your husband has a crush on another woman and you find it intimidating, upsetting or think he’s crossing a line with his behaviour – then of course, bring it up. Talk to him about it.
- Tell him how you feel.
- Tell him what you don’t like or appreciate about the way that he’s behaving.
- Then set some new boundaries.
Just make sure you broach it the right way and not in an accusing manor. After all, effective communication is key, and when you have it – you can work through and resolve anything… No matter how big or small.
On the flip side – if it’s a harmless crush he has:
- It could either be something embarrassing for him, if you were to broach it.
- Or, it could become a funny little joke between the two of you; and something to laugh about.
(For instance, maybe he’s even teased you once before, about having a crush on the postman! Is it true? Maybe so. Maybe not. But would anything actually ever happen? Not a chance! So it almost becomes an in-joke with a bit of teasing banter!)
What Do You Do When Your Husband Shows Interest In Another Woman?
Remember, if your husband is actually ACTING on this crush he has, and genuinely showing interest in her – that’s where you truly have to step in and address it.
After all, crushes like this, without the love, care and respect or appreciation for you, are what can lead to infidelity.
But that’s why it’s good that you’re here, right now, recognising the signs and the severity of the situation, to then have confidence in how to deal with it from here. Agreed?
That’s All For This One
So that rounds up our 7 secret signs your husband has a crush on another woman… And what to do about it. I hope this has helped.
Got a question? Need clarification over anything at all? Then please don’t hesitate to reach out; dropping a comment below. (You can do so anonymously, my friends.)
And don’t forget – there’s relationship coaching also available, should you need it. Don’t stay stuck. Sort things out properly and fully.
Take care. Wishing you all the best!
Love,
Ell_xx
